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i posted a message before,
what should i do? my mom knows that i love him, i agree he is using a lame excuse to break up with, but i love him a lot, i think i should break up with him, but how what should i say or do???
what should i do, to forget him???
i am not a virgin anymore blc of him, do u think i will have problems in the future?
i am really scared!! jyoti replied. i am from canada, born and raised, but my family is stirct, he is a guy from india, i met him there, my mom give me talks like indians guys r good, etc!
we been together for 3 years, it will take a little time, now i go to work, school, when i have free time i go to the gym, or movies to keep my mind of from him!
thanks everyone, i had no else to talk about my problem! realllllly worried replied. why r u still thinking abt him ????

stop it first. Dont expect emails phone calls.

agar wo tumhare layak hota to aisa nahi hota ... bec u r not like that.

look dear ... we know u r having a hard time. pls bear it for some time. things will be fine soon.

or why dont u do one thing?
start looking at other handsome boys ;-) u will have a good timepass (lekin ab phir se dil mat de dena) SONYA replied. First of all, calm down!

That's life. All you can do is: learn from
your mistakes and try to move on.

You are a victim. And, he broke your trust.
So......why do you still love him??

We call guys like these in the U.S.---
asshole! All he is going to do is move
on...then he is going to find a innocent
girl....then he is going to sweet talk
her....then he is going to dump her.
These types of guys are useless.

As for your future: I don't know.
I know some parents will do a lot of
research before they are going to give
away their son or daughter. Especially,
if word get around that: you have been
sexually active before marriage. You will
have 10 points deducted for this.

but.......don't take my word for this.
Now-a-Day, there are also parents that
are less strick. reallllllllllllly sad replied. now he does not even mail me!
i want to thank everyone, i feel better. i am going to leave this to god. if he used me, i am going to pray to god that to punish him, blc if u hurt somone else, your pain will be triple!
but i am still hurt!
life is soooo unfair!
i think arrange marriage will be good for me. friend replied. Let him go.... from ur mind and ur heart. i underwent the same feelings 4 yrs back it was very difficult to leave him i made blank calls went to see him met his friends all possible ways to patche up then i let him goo he was not worth my relationship. i attended Art of Living classes went to a gym and worked hard very time he came to my mind i use to say let goo let goo let goo finally he is out of my mind now i am married to a wonderfull man he is so caring and dear to me i have left my past behind and my very very happy i did it.. try ur own ways to forget and leave him. it is a bold step but take it up once and it is the end..

ALL THE BEST and keep posting
saheli replied. having sex, being a virgin or not, mom knowing it or not ...

are all secondary things dear. I know they seem imp at ur age, but luv and trust are important, which u will know later.

dont worry abt that, if u r pregnant drop the baby. dont take seriously. Its just the body, not mind.
dont tell anyone abt sex, many females lose virginity without sex these days due to sports cyclic etc.
saheli replied. Dear reallly-sad

1. There is no answer to the solution you are expecting.
2. Most of us here are ppl with families. So we have seen either sides of life and we know that the stage u r passng thru is tough, but life is much more beyond it. Life doesnt end at lover or boyfriend.
Life can be beautiful depending on your lookout.

So most of us will suggest to forget the BF, bec we know he is not interested in amrrying u, there is no use in going after him.

Stop all interaction with him, u dont need to meet him last time/say bye. Just leave abruptly.

If ur mom knows abt u, tell her whats happened (minus the sex thing). Say u dont want to marry him. Mom wont say but knows u r sad, will support u. She is a mom afterall.

even if he comes back, dont melt. he doesnt seem good.

Make urself busy immdly. Damn busy for next many days. Go out of city for work/course/training/picnic/Art-of-living course /.... any any thing.

just be away from him and keep ur mind occupied.

and post a message back after 1-2 months on what happ.


we are waiting for u :)