Relationships  Discussion Forum

just was going through the resent posts,hoooo god was really surprised almost everybody has a problem because of there husbands ,y dont they be themselves MAMAS BOY, irretating r we not born to our parents,dont we leave all our happiness and trust our husbands and come ,ok our culture and all they need not leave ther parents and come cant they think of there one.........
really all have there problems because of there mil, fils and sil but the fact is not these people the root cause is the husbands.
they have to take iniative to bind all the relationships.
y cant thye open ther eyes and see whats happening they need not support there wifes,but should be fare enough to judge between people,true love affection and between people who act in front of them.
i personally feel that all problems will automatically come to end when they start thinking,these people make us also feel low,make us loose our selfrespect and all our happiness just to make there mama who want to kill her sons happiness.
just felt very sad about many post,the only solution is we should muster all our selfconfidence,strength and fight for ourselves
and win our husbands heart ,thats very difficult as from other side there will not be tricks to shatter our happiness,but we have to be patient and show that women (mil)that we also can get what we want PriyaPrabu replied. True Actually.We have to try hard and win the husband's heart where on the other side our ILs are diong tricks.But husbands tend to believe their parents more than us, inspite of :we love them,we care for them,we are leaving our parents & coming to live with them and doing each and every thing to make them happy.This is not fair.I personally feel the previous generation to our's was ok and our generation men(Sorry men!) are moving to the 17th century when DILs were Suppressed by ILs. saheli replied. A million bucks point!
I too feel the same always.

Indian system of a joint family - the concept is basically incomparable. Thats the way things should be. Why would anybody have children if they know they will have to die helpless alone when they are old !?!? But these people dont realise whats going on. The hatred between in-laws and DILs doesnt seem to be changing. And more and more hsbands are realising importance of having their own family.

This will gradually lead to negligence of parents by the sons.

And will result into more and more nuclear families. pallavi replied. you are right, sangini :)