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hi all,
i'm really having a tough time making the decision of my life.hope u'll all help me find a solution.
i'm a south indian girl.i'm in luv wid my 1st cousin.marriages between cousins are permitted in our custom.he also loves me.both of us know we love each other from childhood,but none of us have expressed our feelings for each other.now,since my parents have started to look a groom for me,i'm getting worried.though i love my cousin,i'm keeping it to myself.this is because i've heard that the marriage between cousins are scientifically not good as it may affect the child born.i've heard that the children born to blood relatives r mentally or physically handicap.i dont want to be careless & selfish to cause harm to an innocent baby just because of my desires.my cousin loves me too,but hasnt told me anything directly.i can see that in his actions though.......so can u all plz suggest what shld i do? is it really harmful to marry him? shld i go ahead & propose to him or just supress my feelings & marry whomever my parents suggest? i'm desperately waiting for ur responses.thank u all in advance raj sharma replied. this is only teenage attraction think about ur future and ur parents. xxxxx replied. Hmm,


As a teenager you get attracted to different people but it is not a love.

The definition for love is different before marriage and after marriage.

But as women to get married and live happily these things are important,
Is he capable of earning?
Is he responsible?
Can he take good care of you and your family and so many other things needs to be considered before getting married?

If you can answer for those questions then that its first step get married as responsible person. Coming to child it all depends on different things. Some people with blood relationship have problems but some not. I guess no one can really tell you are going to get 100% problems or not. I guess for that better to consult a doctor. But at the same time
Whatever decision you take you shouldn’t repent later life.