Relationships  Discussion Forum

I am 24 yrs old girl doing my engineering in India.I love someone and we decided to get married but as i am in final yr my future inlaws and parents decided to wait for another year.my inlaws are very nice, family is good,everything is ok.Now the problem is he works in America( wil be back next yr forever)and i am studying here.He used to call me a lot,we used to chat a lot.but these days he chats rarely,calls very rarely like for few mins in 3 days n then about 30-40mins on weekends.when i asked about this change he started fighting saying i am busy.I dont know about US life style.then he was like calling everyday is very expensive.Is there anyone who can tell me if its true??how is it possible that he doesnt get even few mins for me?What are the calling charges from US(california )to India.I am feeling very very depressed.Please help me. sangini replied. Stuti u are being really big time Dreamer its never like this my friend, real life thing are different from Movies, he has his stress related to work, his budget you on the other hand are just studying moreover its not feasble to call everyday for 3ominutes, if he was doing it before that means its great a relation have a spark for a period after a certain time it starts going declining, f you think this way you will never find anyone for whom you will be the only passion and don't mind even if you find Love will not fill your stomach once u are married a women loves to be associated with a successful person than failed Lover well choice is yours you can live ur dreams and spoil the relation by not enjoying the calls he makes to you rather than thinking of the days when he doesnot call u, Generally nay engaged couples try to get married as soon as they are engaed the period u have mentioned is more than what it should be because these realtions are delicate and break very easily.
On the other hand you should be witty and smart to divert him from the demand he has made about online sex and not get upset its natural to feel that wat and morover he is the US comeon girl you can't deny its a part of the package but you can be smart and talk to him in such way that he will miss u or attimes u can call him make he feel imp. let him crave for you..
ALL THE BEST Stuti replied. I dont know what to do?he has become so greedy and materialistic.Then there is another thing he seriously dislike.DISGREE TOO.he was like we are engaged and i feel lonely so lets make love on net.I HATE THIS.before marriage i dont want anything like that EVEN IF ITS JUST ON INTERNET.he was like there is nothing wrong as we arent doing anything in real.I have NEVER EVER TOUCHED HIM NOT EVEN HIS HAND N SAME WITH HIM.HE KNOWS FOR ME EVEN THIS IMAGINARY THING IS TOO MUCH.TELL ME what should i do??I WILL NEVER DO EVEN THIS NET THING BUT HOW TO MAKE HIM UNDERSTAND.??MOREOVER I FEEL I WANT SOMEONE WHO LOVES ME MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THIS WORLD.FOR HIM I SHOULD BE HIS PASSION NOT WORK.NOT MONEY NOTHING.HOW TO TELL HIM THAT.I FEEL VERY SHY EXPRESSING MY FEELINGS TO HIM .I CANT SAY ALL THIS TO HIM.TELL ME WHAT SHOULD I DO?? Stuti replied. Yes i also feel like that only.its just an excuse.when last yr he used to call me for 30 mins everyday what has changed now?when i asked about this change he said he is being responsible now by not spending on phone calls.he belongs to a family where financial thing can never be an issue.infact he got promoted this month.i think the more he is getting the worse he is becomming. SONYA replied. well.....Stuti,

Yes! it can be pricey.....especially when
you have a lot to say. Just 6 months ago
My Mother in Law had to go back home....
My husband and I, ended up using 5 cards.

Here in the U.S. a calling card cost us
5 dollars for a 20 Minute phone call.

And the sad part was we had to call
very late at night, because of the
difference in time.

Stuti, I think the difference in time is
what's keeping him from calling you.
Think about it......if he calls you
right after he get back from work, it's
probably midnight there, right?? and
since you are still in school, he
don't want to bother you.

Beside...Yes, things here in the U.S.
is getting expensive. Rent is increasing
the gas is getting higher, and our
paychecks are not increasing. It can be
hard for some people here.

BYE Nihar replied. Hi Stuti,

I dont necessarily agree with the fact that its is expensive calling from the USA. I live in the UK & I can call India everyday from here should I wish to do so. It will not cost me a fortune to do so. There are hundreds of offers these western countries do for the people who call abroad because of the very high number of immigrants in these countries. I wouldnt just beleive what he is saying.
As lnk has said revert to Emails & if he dosent reply to them, then be doubtful.

All the best
Nihar lnk replied. Hi Stuti,

it is expensive to call from america everyday. I think now he must be planning to save money for your future together , that's why he is thinking of saving money. Try to understand his situation. Instead of phone, switch to emails, if he is not responding on that also, then DO make and ISSUE for that.