Relationships  Discussion Forum

Hi Everyone,
I'm in a strange situation, I'm a married for last 5 years. My family life was pretty good and smooth. This dilema started about an year back, my wife was having a group of kitty friends,most of them whom we knew from quite sometime. One of her friend was known to me before marriage and also their family and my parents knew each other. So we started meeting each other once in a while and also we once went for weekend drive around 20 of us. As we had become close, I mentioned to her that infact before marriage I had serious crush on her and I hesitated to ask her then coz my parents told me that her family was looking for more wealtier guy and city based, I just hid my feelings then, After I told her that, her reaction towards me has completely changed, she prefers to ignore me and stopped joining our company and behaves very indifferent. Frankly I have no any such feelings towards her now and I'm pretty happy with my wife and my family. Suddenly her whole group have started feeling that I purposed her or did something with her, my wife yells at me as why i mentioned that to her. I was just being honest and nothing else. I don't care a damn for these things, but my wife feels I did a mistake. What do you think I should do? did I do a mistake by being honest? Infact as luck would have it, I'm based in the same city and in a better social status than her. I sometimes think am i being too modest or I just have to start ignoring her, Please advice Thanks in advance
desi gal replied. hi,
i guess she must have talk to her husband about it.and its very clear that any husband comes to know any point of time that any man had crush on his wife ever he is going to warn his wife to stay away from that man.expressing your past feelings to a married women is not called being honest or modest is called being cheap.try to be honest only to your wife and not to someones else wife or u r going to end up loosing all your friend. priya replied. As far as that friends(lady's) behaviour towards you , thats fair ! Any married woman who donot have intentions of flirting with another man would prefer to ignore a person(who talks such things) and would prefer to stay away from any sort of mess !! Esp bcoz you all have common friends !! Also she may not be very clear abt ur intentions as you are sharing this with her after 5 years !!But telling it to all friends circle is not justified !! But the damage is done.
So on ur part , its best you too ignore her and dont pay attention to it!!
As far as ur wifes reaction , thats also fair .. which wife will tolerate her hubby going and confessing her friends he liked her once upon a time.
So you only focus on clearing things out between u and ur wife in case of any misunderstanding !!
And for that friend .. just leave her alone !!!
May be you are honest but certain things should be left unsaid !!!

Priya