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2006-10-30

Name: rashmi Hi all,
I don't know if the way I feel is right or no but i am very confused. This morn, when my hubby called his parents, my MIL asked my DH if iam around. I had asked him to lie that iam in kitchen busy.They were talking over the speaker phone. She asked him twice if I was nearby.Suddenly, after informing her that iam not there, he tried to change the topic..like asking her to give the phone to his dad immediately. Do u think thata he talks behind my back?
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2006-10-31

Name: No Name
Subject:

Stop worrying !

Why do you sound so worried .. If you have not done anything what is there for them to talk !!!
In my case its diff, Whenever My hubby talk to his parents on speaker phone I feel I am intruding in to their privacy and getting into his personal space . So I act busy and go into the bedroom so he can talk to them without my presence.
So stop worrying on all these . You will unnecessarily spoil your own peace. It will not make any diff to ur ILs

2006-11-01

Name: rashmi
Subject:

Mike

Oh well...
Before commenting on my brain or whatever, pls do look at ur choice of words..looks like u r here only to create problems... If one is talking on a speakerphone, u r bound to hear everything whether u want to hear or not...Again, if I dont want to talk to anyone, its my personal choice. " MY HuBBY" also hears to my conversation with my family & he doesn't talk to them over the phone & I dont have any probs with that.

2006-11-01

Name: Mike
Subject:

GoodJob.

Well Said " No Name" !
You are one sensible person.
But I dont think the person who posted the original post would understand this.It is in her blood to always remain a 'pain in the butt' for her hubby & his family.She will be one until the end.This is all because she lacks one chip in her brain " decency chip" .

2006-10-31

Name: KUNJU LAKSHMI
Subject:

May be they need more money

Dear sister,
Sometimes my husband is saying OOM, OOM, OOM to his parents. I don't think they are bad mouthing against me. After their talk I don't question him. Sometimes he is telling me what they talked. Some of their relatives/family members did some shameful things which his parents are not ready to share with me. I DON'T MIND. IT IS THEIR PROBLEM WHICH I AM NOT INVOLVED IN IT.

My friend's parents call her husband and talk to him secretly for more money to send.

PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENT. YOU DON'T MIND IF THEY DON'T WANT TO INVOLVE YOU IN THEIR BUSINESS.

IF YOU START TO THINK THERE WILL NOT BE AN END AND IF YOU DON'T THINK NOTHING WILL HAPPEN.

2006-10-30

Name: Mike
Subject:

how sick.

wow what kind of a psychopath are you...yuck.Only because of women like you I do not want to get married...What do you think yoru husband is ?..Do you use him to only screw you?..You dont want to talk to his parents .So you ask him to lie. Then you start this new doubt or whatever..
You will rot in hell.

2006-11-01

Name: Mike
Subject:

live long

who ever you are..Long live!.
You seem to be a sensible person too.
I don't care about what you have written about me as a would-be Momma's boy after marriage etc.,. because I am sure I am not going to get married.
I am not ready to try my luck hoping to find a gal like you but ending up with some 'pain in the wrong place'.
I like the way I am living right now.
Like Dildo me also have other ways to outlet my urges.Ofcourse will never commit sin.
As for you, You keep up the goodwork. Nothing much to say,.Take care of your parents also equally.God Bless you.

2006-11-01

Name: Pari
Subject:

one sided comment

qusetion for u...why is it that when we get married..u want us to stop our relationship with our parents..treat u'r parents like ours but when it comes to u..u don't want anything to do with our parents...and still expect our parents and our whole family to treat u like royality cause u r the daamad!

Don't get me wrong...I'm not siding with Rashmi...she is being totally paranoid!!! I mean seriously..have u though maybe he just didn't want his parents to say something which might hurt u...and is trying to maintain peace...Rashmi u need to ignore this and stop evesdroping on u'r hubby's convesation...give him some privacy! I mean seriously have u not once gotten anrgy at him and spoken of him to someone (not u'r parents but a friend even)

Back to u Mike....have u stopped to think that more than half these problems r becasue u'r parents want u to get married but they don't want to let go of u. Interference!!!!! Trust me U'r mom didn't like it when u'r granny did that to her!!! If u'r parents r extremly possesive of u..than really u shouldn't get married..becasue u'r wife will have a hard time...and we all know who's side u will take.
And before u say anything..let me tell u something about me...my inlaws r good people..they have their short comings and seriously can drive me up the wall sometimes....but i still take care of them...so much so that sometimes my hubby gets angry with them and has even said...why don't u just adopt me already...which is funny cause i am already their daugter through marriage.

The sharing part is 2 way...if u expect u'r wife to share u with u'r parents ..which is a totally reasonable request..be ready to share u'r wife with her parents.

I don't know who u have seen but mostly people i have seen r men wanting their wifes to take crap from his parents and still be happy.....WHY??? We left our parents..and have started a family with u...be with u...not u'r parents. The YOUR FAMILY in our phrases is us_ me and my hubby and our kids ...not my parents or u'r!!!!!!

As for the screwing part..pls....male ugers r more stronger than female...men cannot live without sex..but women can manage....and if u foget there is always the dildo!!!!!;)

2006-11-01

Name: Mike
Subject:

how sick...

I see lot of this phrase being used here in this entire post by all sorts of women or so called DIL's ...
" my hubby" .....
atleast may be a 100 times!.
WOW..where did your hubby come from? from the sky? or from another planet? His Mom broguht him to this world Damn It!...She took care of him all his life ,After marriage You have " your" family but he cannot have his?..Can't he share or have a relationship with his mother?.Why do you want to always coem inbetween what they talk ot what they do? bloody hell!
Just imagine a reversed situation:
He asks to talk to your mom using the speaker phone & you talk & what if he rises such a doubt????????..
Let me tell you what you will do..
You will be crying from your eyes & nose all over this board saying 'how cruel your hubby is & how his mom is brainwashing him to do like that!'..
You women You will never change!!!.You all should marry only Orphans who has not family at all ever & you all can do all sorts of phone/internet tricks on someone else.
Wait until your son goes through exactly the same .GoodLuck.

2006-10-31

Name: rashmi
Subject:

to Mike

Good that u don't want to get married...U will spare one lucky girl. Looks like either u r a teenager to understand what a dil goes through or u must be a mamma's boy who is completely being brain washed by emotional blackmailing...
P.S: Take my advice & pls don't get married.

2006-10-30

#10

Name: Swathy
Subject:

yeah

Did u ask ur hubby Y he asked so ? if s, whats his reply ...

if no,
Ask him now y he did so :-) and find out his reply ...

But u dont get into arguments and be nice... Ok :-)

Even I dont like to talk with my parents when my hubby is nearby. Certain thngs cant be shared or discussed with everyone. v wont feel comfortable also ...

So u no need to worry abt this,... Even if ur hubby talks behind u let him talk. u r not doing anything wrong rt ? he may not want u to hear/hurt if they ask anything bad abt u .

WHen ur husband lies to his parents that u r busy then y cant he lies to u ? take it cool Babe ...

Its not wrong also .

2006-10-31

#11

Name: rashmi.
Subject:

Swathy

Hi Swathy,
Thanks.. I share every little detail of my family with my DH..I know what she wants to discuss with him...abt my cousins which is none of her business. She has done this before. Only thing I want my hubby is not to disclose any of my family's secrets..thats it...
thanks again
bye & take care

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