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I am in mental delima. I want to be a good DIL, but situation is not allowing me to do so.here is my story:
I have so many issues againist my MIL & SIL like everyone does.My mil came here(to US) to visit us few years back.I had tough time spending with her.things such as , she wants to sit with my hubby in the front seat,ofcourse i didn't realise that, she really wants.she went back to india told everyone i told her sit in the back seat.she will get jealousy when my husband buys stuff for me.she wanted me to cook for her nice food, even though i am not feeling well by mentally.she told so many bad things about my parents.and so on.....
Than again I get feeling for her now, even though she is like that still she is my husbands mom. I feel like i should call her agian along with my FIL.since she went through lot of difficult time before, i feel like we should give her more happiness.and please note that my husbands supports them financially.sometime i feel shall i call her again?.if i think again i get scared she might behave badly, bring misunderstanding between us.how can i console myself?.do you guys think i should call her or not?.since she came only for 1.5 months sometimes i feel guilty..please advice. isha replied. its really nice that we r able to realise that they r our husbands parents,and they really have rights on ther sons.NEVER EXPECT ANYTHING FROM YR MILS ,but do our duties perfectly some day or other they will realise.
it will be really hurting if somebody says something bad about us or yr parents but just think how the husbands feel for ther wifes .they will really be happy to get good wifes who do so much to there parents even if we r hurt by them.
allthebest Neepa replied. Hema,
I am in a similar situation. My mil came here few years back and gave me a tough time and before leaving she cursed me for misbehaving with her. She said she didn't like me anymmore and doesn't want to be in my house. Now that she learned that I am expecting she is all set to come here. I don't have anyone to call from my parents side and I am sure my mil wont' agree to that either. but she is so tough to deal with. Its not that i dont' respect her but sometimes i feel whatever i do for her its of no use. She has her own sets of rules and dislikes everything about me. I am in dilemma as sometimes I also feel she is my husbands mom. She has whole right to spend time with her son and grandkid. I should be nice to her (which I am always). But why she has to be so difficult to deal with.
Please friends put some light on our question.
Any help will be appreciated.