Parents of Preschoolers  Discussion Forum

Hi all,
my daughter is almost 3 years. She is very introvert, she doesnt feel very comfortable when we have guests at home. She literally locks herself in her room and prefers playing alone. And we dont have many kids of her age in our area. So this keeps bothering me. Please give me some suggestion as to how i can make her more social.

Regards,
Mrs. Mehta. Stutee Saini replied. Initially try to make her comfortable in a smaller circle of friends may be some one or two then slowly extend it to 5 and more. I’m sure your child will get socialize soon. I heard this idea from one of the parents in my kid’s school Orchids International. Also, take her to some play area nearby so that she gets to play with kids her won age.
Srishti replied. Hello Mrs. Mehta
I can understand your situation as my child was also little shy and timid.

The best way to squash shyness is to send your child to a pre-school that help kids to come out of their shells.

During the preschool years, kids begin to learn how to interact with other children and make friends.

I will recommend you to enroll your child to Shemrock preschool where she’ll get exposure and a friendly atmosphere. SHEMROCK Group of Preschools is a place where your child doesn' t need to be a gung-ho, first-in-line student to learn. The teachers are supportive, loving, sensitive to the children' s feelings and needs, and really understand where ' ' the child is' ' . After going to Shemrock, my son has flourished socially and emotionally. He now has a core group of friends and gets adjusted to situations easily.
Hari. B replied. I completely agree with Mr.Saurabh. you need to give her sometime for herself. But not socializing could cause problems as she grows up. You need to take her out may be to a park or something where she can interact with other children. If that is not possible then atleast you should enroll her to a preschool.
My niece had a similar problem. She liked being by herself all the time. But then we took her to a counselor. He suggested us to put her in preschool.
So we enrolled her to Eurokids International which really helped her in becoming more social.
I' m sure it will help you too..

Regards,
Hari. SAURABH AGARWAL replied. Mrs Mehta,

There could be several reasons for this behavior. If I were you, I would observe her closely to see which of the reasons apply. An appropriate solution needs to be based only on this ' Diagnosis' .

I can think of the following possible hypotheses/reasons:

- She is gifted and cannot connect well with others. Usually gifted children find it difficult to adjust in ' normal' social surroundings.

- She is happy being with herself and does not see the need of socializing.

- She is used to being only with familiar people, so she is not used to interacting with outsiders.

- She has had 1-2 bad experiences while interacting with outsiders (e.g. their kids snatching her toys, etc), so she has cut herself off.

The basic approach should be to go into the root cause of her Introversion, and then come up with a solution .

Also, Introversion is not necessarily bad. It is just a preference. Some of the most successful people have been Introverts..

Saurabh