Relationships  Discussion Forum

I have been following this board with interest, and I feel that the married life problems are much more serious and difficult than the ones before marriage. I read the board on \"; sex\"; and \"; EMA\"; , but frankly to say, it feels so so silly. All those young girls and guys who are in marriagable age are so curious about First Night, and Sex, and then lots of similar things. Of course, its natural. But They fail to think of the life after marriage. I want to tell them that Life after marriage is going to be more challenging than anything else. The society demands that DILs adjust to each and every member of the family, she gets abused , and has to bear the rudeness of the inlaws and at times even your parents will be insulted.This happens in most of our families either from day 1 of marriage or at some point in their married life. Tackling such issues are more difficult for Indian women than brooding over their boyfriend not doing this or that. Arey, just get married and then you will know what I am talking . I sincerly dont mean to frighten any young girl about marriage. Its definitely wonderful. But it comes as a package with more tensions and more worries plus happiness also. So my young friens, a word of advice, please dont worry about small small issues and tear your hair out.. for example.. what to do when I have sex, how to please my husband on the first night etc.. Life starts from \";THE DAY TWO \"; of your marriage. You will be the princess before the wedding in your parents house , so please enjoy with your parents as much as possible. Life is never going to be the same after your marriage. and during the wedding aslo, you will be treated like a queen. but the harsh reality hits us when our dear ones leave us in the in-laws house and go back. We stand at the gate waving our hands out to them with tears in our eyes and our parents... Life is changing once and forever at that stage.. thankuforurtime replied. pls dont scare unmarried princesses and princes. let them be in their dreamland. in india, people are scared of sex before marriage and hence are curious/eager about marriage to know about sex. just b'cos u ppl r having troubles, does not mean marriage is a bed of thorns. let em go ahead and marry, so that v have infinite posts on this board. instead advice to do a proper background check of inlaws behaviour by asking neighbours, employer s of bride/groom, etc etc. Because before marriage, everybody sells with sugar coated words, later u realise its all nautanki/naatak/drama. have an open conversation with ur fiancees and get them to open up. dont just assume things will get better after marriage. marriage is not a rehab camp where u can undo all bad habits. Friend replied. True life after marriage is very different from life before marriage.
To me personally, i do have this MIL/SIl issues but thank god they live far away from us. But whenever they are with us...its bad.
Before marriage i had other issues like trouble at work. Boy issues. They seem trivial now but at that age they did seem BIG.
Maybe after some years these In law issues will also seem trivial...who knows...
I have been fortunate with a lovely husband. I can trust him comepletely and life is better with just him being around. We all get a package deal so...
just think whatever phase you are in right now...probably its beter than the worse to come :)
yasmine replied. Life starts after marriage.Before marriage you can act as you like with your parents,siblings.After marriage you have to act according to your hubby.That is life.I think we will grow up by pleasent or unpleasent things.Don't you think your character has been improved after marriage?.more maturity came after marriage?.