Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

I happen to be one of you. Married for three and a half years and trying to concieve since 1 yr or so. My medical history is of having a tubercolosis in my intestines (which has been sucessfully treated 3 yrs back).The HSG reports are fine. The blood group of my husband and myself is the same (o+ve). I have tried clomifine but it doesen't help. Since last 8-9 months i have very irregular periods say once in 3 months. I went to a gynae but it isn't helping. I am feeling very low as I feel guilty for being infertile. The doctor says that there is no problems with my ovaries but can't diagnose reasons for my irregular periods. I know i shouldn't stress myself by thinking abt it all the time but can't help it. It doesn't go off my mind. My husband's tests were all fine.Not able to face my in-laws as they wanted me to have a baby. My relationship with my husband is also being effected. Please help me by giving me some advice. Can anyone tell me if there is any problem in case the couple has the same blood group? Y replied. I am very thankful to all of you for sharing my greif. I feel at ease now. I am going to start on clomid for the third time this month. I keep my fingers crossed as i write all this.

Wishing everyone lots of luck and god's bless.

Y Anupama replied. Hi Y,
I can really understand what you are feeling. I am ttc for 4 years with no luck. I did some blood work 8 months back and it didn't come in normal range. That was the bad day of our life. That time my thought was similar to you like feeling guilty,to curse myself... Once or twice in a month we talk about it and after that we feel relived. So i just want to say that always keep open communication with ur hubby. It will help not only you but help him also. My in-laws issue is as same as yours but i don't mind their dessire. I take it as a normal human feelings.
Don't ever think of being infertile. You r trying for a year only. Think positively, keep hope and have faith in God. You can take second opinion for irregular periods.
Wishing u lots n lots of Baby Dust!!
Love,
Anupa..

Anu replied. hi y

i am sailing the SAME SITUATION as u r now.thing is iam juz married for 1.6 yrs.but within 4 months of my marriage i was detected with TB and i was under 9 months of medication but now i am completly cured.but now PCOS.my in-laws r egerly waiting for me to say the good news.but i can't.i have not yet started my medicine.i am juz praying god for this whole month and doing yoga everyday.this iam doing juz giving it a try.i am going to take my clomid starting from next month.so i think it will take another 3 to 6 months.sometimes m husband can understand and tell to their parents but sometime he wont.but as Karishma said..its not our fault.its God's.He can fix it.so dont lose ur hope and prepare to face all 4 the sake of ur baby.may god bless u soon with ur baby....luv..Anu

Sorry i dunno anything with the same blood group. jazy replied. hi ! so same blood grp is bothering u ,i think u R doc can tell u the best .....but yes..as far as u in-laws r concerned u shud tell them that u r body is not under ur control. especiallly such things. ask u r husband to make them understand.
u talk to him with cool mind ...n tell him that u dont want this .....say together u both will work it out. try all means....n tell him if he will do like this then on whom will u rest upon for support. positive thinking is the key to this situation. talk to him spend more time with him.
all the best.
J Karishma replied. hi there,

I know its easy for all of us to say,dont stress up!!! The wearer of the shoe knows where it hurts!!

Since we all at ttc board are going thru the same scenario we can well adept with your feelings.

As regards the O+ factor, initially i used to hear people say that if both the spouse have similar blood group, its difficult for their offspring. But i think this is just farce. Its only if one of the spouse has a + factor and other one has -ve factor, there can b probs. But science has gone too far!! All the things can b reversible, i guess!!

I can only say you will have to keep up ur courage!! Dont ever lose hope.

Keep in touch with all of us and you will feel that ur tension has lessened quite a bit, Believe me!!

Every single parent and in-laws will definitely feel the need of a grandson/daughter. But we arent doin anything on purpose to hurt anyones ego!! U tell ur in-laws to keep calm and that all the things will get set properly. Moreover, what with your hubby by your side, i dont think you gotta think of anything or anybody else, isnt it??

So dont lose hope and stay positive.

Wishing you loads and loads of baby dust!!!

Luv,

Karishma

P.S. Sorry if i have hurt your sentiments. I just wrote what came to my mind.