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i am married to a keralait..i was shocked to hear frm my mil that keralaits used to give solids to babies by 40th day..b4 6 months their ultimate aim iz to make the babies like elephant.they will feeed tons of food b4 6 months..they compelled to inrroduce by 40th day n they says i am harassing my baby without giving any other food..and now my baby iz 3.5 months old..it happened to start solid for my baby by 3rd month bcuz of their compulsion bcuz they barin washed my hubby that i am not looking after my baby..so if i do not inroduce solids i may got dovorced...they says that itz too late to start solid now.haa funny aan..do anyone heard of thiz shit practise???why dont they respect mom's feelings?my baby iz now 4.5 kgs and i am bfing her..but my mil used to give litres of cow's milk when i go for bath or out.iz it ok?? i am tensed bcuz of their practise..what effect itz going to create on babies if solids introduced by 40 days? Dia replied. I have a 5 month old baby..and my doc here in the US told me to start cereal(baby rice cereal) at 2-3 months . I was a bit surprised as for my son we had started at 4 months. I think at the end of the day it depends on u'r baby...if he/she is ready or not...cause if they r not u have to wait. I don't think there is hard fast rule..but u do definately want to wait till atleast 2 months. Talk to u 'r do and see what he says
At my baby's 4 month appt, he infact suggested to start giving more rice cereal (3 times a day) because my baby is a spitter..and less milk and more solid will be better.
As for cow's milk..here in the US it is a big no no till age 1..as cow's milk is difficult to digest. If u have to supplement...give baby formula.

All the best hi replied. HI KANIKA

there is no need to ntroduce solid food to the baby before 4 months anyway. it is better after 6 months. baby need only mother milk upto 6 months. U JUST DON'T CARE OTHERS. IT IS UR BABY AND U HAVE TO TAKE GOOD CARE OF HIM.
take ur husband next time with u when u visit doctor, r u in US? if so, they'll nt allow to start solds till 6 months. otherwse also start only after 4 months.

am also a malayalee but i started solid food to my kids as the DOCTOR said and not lke what OTHERS say. i know ur stuaton, so take ur hubby wth u to doctor and ask him. in india they may say after 3 or four months u can gve solid food. BUT IT IS GOOD FOR THE BABY IF U START AFTER 6 MONTHS. THEN ONLY THE DIGESTIVE SYSTEM CAN ABLE TO DO IT FUCTION VERY WELLO.

just browse nternet and u can see the details. but dont' give baby solid food AT LEAST NOT BEFORE 4 MONTHS. IT IS NOT GOOD FOR HIS/HER DGESTIVE SYSTEM supriyasanoj replied. Iam from Kerala too,but now staying in US.I too agree it is a very bad practice.for my first delivery my MIL was here.in your custom it is 40 days,but in our custom it is 28 days.they start giving ragi porridge two times a day from 28 days.she even brought loads of ragi powder while coming for delivery.and was so stubborn that she will give it at 28 day.my hubby was ignorant about it.when we went for our son's 2nd week check up.i told about this to our pediatrition in front of my mil.the doc was so shocked to hear this and she started to shout and told us all the bad effects of starting so early.my husband was convinced and he supported me and i was able to completely breast feed him for upto 6 months.even my dad was behind me.my son is little lean but very healthy.he always used to scold me not for starting solids,that is why he is lean.he tells me\" what is the problem with you we started solids for you too and now you are fine right\" .
but iam very glad you were able to stand upto 3 months.he will be fine dont worry.if you are breast feeding tell your mil not to give cows milk.
take care. Suma replied. Hi, You can give solids to your baby once he/she completes 3 months.... it doesn't mean that you should give loads of food but you can give small quantity of rich smashed food adding with milk or water. There is no harm giving few spoons of solid food to your baby everyday. I practiced not giving solids to my baby until she completes 4 months but now i regret it as i seen many of my freinds giving solids to small babies ( 2 and half onwards).... and they are very strong, active and healthy too.. Sometimes we should listen to our elders as they are more experienced than us. Pls do not get me wrong.

Take care of your baby. savi replied. Hi kanika..
It is not appropriate to introduce solid unless the baby is 6 months old..atleast not before 5 months....You cannot explain you MIl but next time when you go to the Pediatrician ,you ask your husband to accompany you..Let the docter himself say what to give and what not...and what will be the reaction if the solid is introduced very early.As he is educated he should understand..This will help u
best of luck