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Mental health is the key to successful parenting and relaxation an achievable goal.

Like children, even parents deserve mental health. Parental well being depends on the self-image, composure and confidence of a parent. If you feel good about yourself and like your life as a parent, you will pass the benefits on to your children. Following are six principles for assertive and composed parenting. They are not hard and fast rules, but simple realities to be kept at the very front of your parenting consciousness. Use them to believe in yourself.

Responsibility is your child's, not yours

Parents are made to feel miserable and ultimately responsible for nearly every problem their young one faces. Naturally, parents tend to believe that their child rearing skills proved faulty. But your parenting is not the only influence in your child's life. Your child's psychological make-up and the world outside also have a tremendous influence. Therefore, do not blame yourself for everything wrong in your child's life. Similarly, you need not take the credit for everything favorable in the child's life. You provide the choices the child takes the decisions.

Are you a composed parent Discuss this topic jyo replied. I think parents are responsible for their kids. I have a baby and I quit my job to take care of her I try my best to be a good mom, I constantly make food that she might enjoy(cook 3 times), I try to play with her and laugh with her but lately I havent been a good mom as my kid is naughty the messes up the whole house inspite of constantly cleaning ,somedays my baby is constantly showing dislike and wants me to be around next to her always ..if I do something in the kitchen she is upto mischeif or clings to me. I become exhausted sometimes and today I shouted at her to shut up as she was for no reason cranky the whole day. I hate myself for doing that and at that point I felt to be unfit to be a mother. I dont have any help as i live abroad and my hubby doesnt do much. I love my baby and all my free time I read baby books or cook or clean for her to play,take her out I know its my reponsibility but somedays I feels my anger getting the better of me. can others share how they handle this?