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i m married for 8 years and have 2 kids. my husband is not the kind i expected to live my life with. he is 10 years elder to me and very introvert and simple. i never met him before marriage but as my parents wanted me to get married i did that for there happiness. I always relied on some friends to discuss my day to day things as he was not interested in listening or blame me for everything. he has some very old notions in him for wives. recently at work place i met a person who is totally like me...and a great friend. we started talking on phone and he got very attached. we used to call and chat on sms very frequently. he was also married bgt not happy. then he went to usa and somehow his wife got hold of her phn bills with my number on it everywhere. she told my husband about it and he simply said he trust me. i know i did wrong and his this behavior totally brought me back in my family life. i started respecting him in all new way but in my friends life nothing is ok now...his wife keeps on attacking him for this and threten him with divorce. i am feeling guilty that because of me this is all happening. if i would have controlled my feelings then nothing of this sort would have started. can i do anything to make my friend life normal. i dont want any disturbance from his wife now in my life....i feel very sad guilty distreesed all the time and pray for everything to get better. Krishna replied. You were not the only one wrong that guy was also at fault and you were just lucky that your husband trusts you and he is not. You should talk to his wife and try to explain things to her and get him out of trouble. NN replied. See do not blame yourself as you were not the only one responsible and it happens and you don't have to worry as things will get better for him too like it did for you. Tell him to try sorting things with his wife. Mrunali replied. Hello Lady,
Every thing was done and you cannot change anything now you need to request her and make her understand the loniness of life with out the husband and to think about the future of the children so that there will nto be any problem to you and to your friend. Simmy replied. Hello r,
It is different kind of situation you are facing. You have done mistake and you realized it and even your husband had trusted you a lot. But you give her clarification that you are not talking to him as of now. Same old replied. Hello don't fret. What is done is done. Thank god that he gave you an opportunity to appreciate and love your husband in a new way. And as for your friend he is stuck in a bad relationship which was the reason why it all started. Maybe parting ways is the right thing for him. But it's easier said then done. If you're in contact with him, tell him to keep quiet and after some time tell his wife okay when she asks for a divorce. That will set her right no one wants a divorce but she needs a dose of her own medicine. Relax. There is that much you can do. Some people are just shallow and they have no idea what is love. Love is giving your loved ones freedom to be who they want to be. That's what we all love and if we get that in a relationship we value it over everything else.