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Dear ALL,
Hi,
I am 24 yr old single parent of a 2.5 yr old son, going to be separated from my husband legally in near future. i was a cheerfull girl and always dreamt of a lovable married life.
I am very sad these days as i don't have any peace of mind. I am working and living with parents these days. Life is so dull,alone and full of pressures, so many challanges.
My mind is not ready to accept this fact that i have to take care of my son all alone for the entire life. When i feel too sad i share it with my female friends but no body for me when i require them. I am emotionally needy.
The moment i reach home i don't want to do anything no concentration at all.
LIFE seems to be a burden. I am working in a gd company presently but sometimes feel so isecure that god forbidden if i'll loose my job, how i am going to survive in life.
I know i am really negative these days. Just want to cry but can't do this also at home bcoz everybody is there. No body can understand my pain. I don't have sister's shoulder to cry.
I have no strength emotionally and physically.
Very painfull bcoz it was a love marriage and i had never ever thought this stage in the wildest of my dreams.
I just want to ask u how to cope up with this kind of pressure. Have u people ever gone through this? Life is a big question mark?
Don't want to live but can't die also bcoz i kid is my responsibily.
If i'll be in this scenario i know i am not going to raise my kid.
I am really sorry for being so pessimistic, hence disturbing ur mood also.
BUT i think only u all can understand my position.
sad replied. Hi ne,
Look at me ,i am more unfortunate i have 41/2 old boy to take care,no family support,and my beloved husband passed away in USA 21/2 months back,me and my son left with no one ,we returned to india,but very much on lookout for friends who can give me lot of moral and emotional support.Please respond so we can exchange mails and contact number. ash replied. hi..
ne..
i am also a single mom i have a 3 and a half year old son.i just read your letter and i felt as if you are narrating my life.i am going through the same thing for last 4 years.My son was not even born when we got seperated.i went through thesame emotions you are going through but believe me you will not even realise how strong u will find urself.Dont feel dipressed.everything will be alright,and your kid will grow up just fine like mine.life take its own turns and if decision was wrong you cannot give hope like this.god forbid even if you loose your job you hve potential to have another .there is no derth of jobs out there.just stop looking back and think about the future start saving for your son and think another 2 -3 months he will start going to school.there will be so many things to enjoy and cherish...and believe me both of u will do great...if i can do it so can u...
dont worry .if you ever want to speak i m always here i m also from delhi...
Sarika replied. Hi dear,

Please donot feel dipressed, have courage and belief in you and do your best for your baby. All will happen good if you feel confident. Have faith in you and god will take care of everything.

I am also facing the same problem and feel very alone. I have a daughter of 1 1/2 years and i am separating very soon because i wished my husband to understand me and love me like a human being not as a slave. I am working to take care of my baby.

Donot worry what will happen in future if you loose job, try searching new job in between. Be optimistic and happy.

Me too from Delhi. you can talk with me if you like. sneha replied. i can totally understand how you might be feeling .sometimes all the things seems to be against us ,but remember time will pass away and definately there will be a morning no matter how dark the night is ...i have also been through a very bad and depressing phase in my life ,for 3 years life just seemed as if was a living hell,i was surrounded by all sorts of thought ,i used to cry cry the whole night but i had believe in my god ,that he will take care of my problems one day and the more the pain becomes unbearable the more you are close to sunlight .
my dear have faith just do what you are supposed to do ,dont worry god will take care of you ,so what if u took a wrong decession of marrying a person ,remember all great people learned from their mistakes and they also took very major wrong decesions .
just pick up the peices and get going .
time will pass no matter how tough the days are it will have only 24 hours .
you will be happy again
thank god for god has also given you a kid ,a job ,parents to take car e of
be proud of your self and respect your self
i will pray for you