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I have been crying since this morning without any shoulder to lean over. I want some one who can feel my pain and understand me. I just cant vent out. Hopefully, writing my heart out will help me to vent and feel better. I left my family and everything and came to US 8 yrs ago for my husband. Today I am all alone as my husband is not the same person now that I married 8 yrs ago. He is a nice person and loves me a lot but he never respected my family and is verbally abusive. I love him a lot too. So why do I have to be a victim of his impatience and verbal abuse. He even hit me yeterday when I was trying to save my son (2.5 yrs old) from him. He was beating the kid because the poor kid was talking too much when he was watching a movie. He thrashed him on bed. My son got some bruises on his neck as well, he started beathing fast and I got worried because he has Asthma. I just asked my son if he was okay and the hell broke, mu husband started beating himself, started abusing me, my family and even hit me. Why do I deserve treatment like that???? This morning he threw another tantrum in the morning by accusing me for not making dinner last night. He abused my father at that time..I can never tolerate this. His mother was in the kitchen last night. When she is in the kithen…she does not let me wander around by her behaviour. She does not like me at all. I always try to be nice to her, but she is not going to change. Kids were cranky so I took them upstairs. He was not talking to me anyway, If I would have asked him for dinner I knew that he would have misbehaved me in front of his parents.

I am educated and helping him out equally with finances. What is he doing to help me out? He does not help me out with anything at home. He is making the things worse for me. On top of that I have deal with his mother who is living with us. She never leaves any opportunity to make sarcastic comments on my parenting skills and on whatever I do. I have to deal with her mood swings….It’s just too much …I just cant live like that. I want to end my life but then I think of my two beautiful kids (2.5 yrs and 6 months old) that I love more than anything else in this world. They are anything and everything to me…and because of them I am going to keep myself alive. They are my reason to live in this world. I have to live for them and raise them to become good human beings.

I am in a dilemma right now…and my problem is that I just cant live like that. I want to terminate my marriage but I don’t think I have courage to take the action and at the same time I think of my kids..I am not sure if this is the right thing to do. But no body knows that I am dying every moment with the situation right now…Oh God…Please give me a lot of strength and courage so I can raise my kids alone or make things better for me…I don’t need any money from any one…I just need my kids….

Someone please help me ….I just don’t know what to do…
xxx replied. I think u just need to be firm. stop taking any bullshit from him or his mom. and dont u ever think of ending ur life. do u know what will he do to ur kids after u r not there?
so u have to live for them. just draw a line......stop communicating to him. speak to ur aprents and ask them if they wills upport ur decision if it is required to leave ur husband. start growing independent and whenever he hits u.......just give him back, and say that u can go to the womens cell, or police if he repeats it.
be a strong woman. all the best. friend replied. HI,
I am so disturbed and touched to read your story.May God give u strength and courage to take decision.
First of all never think about giving up your life. Whatever be the situation please face it don't give up.
I think you need to be more firm and need not to take all this nonsense. If he beats your kids again for no reason please be bold and give him back. Tell him that if he doesn't change his behaviour u would move out with your kids.
Speak to his mother firmly and tell her that why she wants to ruin his son's life. Will she be happy if u move out with your kids and his son stay alone.
Ignore her and your husband completely for few days. Spend time with your kids and make him realize that he has done a mistake.
I hope that he would realize his mistake and your life would be happy again.