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My husband and my sister in law( babhi)have close relation means they can talk about every thing she talks about her sex problems with him that her husband does not satisfy her and what to do
and my husband suggest her how to try new things
and i reaally hate them talking all these things
am i right or wrong? she likes to talk to him in private and very eagewr to go out with him and alwawy comes in between us and always tries to come close to him physically even if he is changing clothes she will sit there and talk to him when i pointed this to my husband he says she is like my mother and there is nothing wrong in that my ? is can this relation be so pure how my husband is telling me. a friend replied. Are you talking about your husband's sister or your co-sister..If it is your husband's sister then do what Desi has suggested...If it is your cosister then...proceed further:
If it is indeed your co-sister, I would say onething to you...
This is not good at all...
Your story is very similar to my story..
My husband used to tell me his babhi (his brother's wife)is like mother to him but the message she conveyed to me was different..(the thing is she is/was such an oldie & not even goodlooking....just had a fair skin on her..that's it!!!).During the early years of my marriage this became of foremost duty to get rid of this female..Like Desi has suggested I did something like it..Without talking directly to that SIL's husband I made sure that he understood what I wanted him to understand..I kind of humiliated him,made him feel ashamed of his wife's acts,,I was always on the look out for evidences & lot of times made her get caught redhanded to her husband (even without her knowledge)..our husbands are so pathetic fools , idiots..we can never say anythign bad r mean about their wonderfull Bhabi's...then we will become perverts...So like they say we need to cut the diamond with diamond ...if her husband is also equally shameless then grab your MIL or FIL or whomever you think would understand the situation..
Listen, if you want a peacefull life FIRST THING Get rid of this SIL pest from your life... hello replied. hellloo friends
what in the world i'm hearing? WHAT??? hi julie how can u tolerate this??
this BHABHI is not GOOD. i know it for sure. even it is our own brother we will not talk about our BEDROOM thngs.
i'm a girL, for me i don't even lke talking bedroom matters with my MOTHER.
JULIE DEAR, DON'T LET HER GO LKE THIS. PUT A STOP. BE GOOD TO UR HUBBY, JUST TELL HER HUSBAND AS DESI DID.

don't blame ur hubby dear, u know sex is a very senstive subject and men can fall into this trap very easily. i think u must make that LADY far from ur little sweet relation with the hubby.

also Dia i can't digest how these men talk bedroom matters with ther mothers. why the hell. i'm feelng nauseous. Ann replied. I think, you should not argue with your husband. Don't tell him any thing like if he will talk to his mom in same way or if you start talking to his brother about personal stuff. This will cause fights between you and your husband.
You know that they both are sharing personal matters when you were not even in your husband's life. So, whenever your s-i-l and your husband are together, try to sit near them. Don't leave your husband alone when your s-i-l is around. But if your husband will tell to go waya as they are having personal talks. Then confront him in your bed room and tell him that this is not going to work. Either he need to change his behavior with his bhabhi or else you have to talk to elder members of the family. desi replied. hi
your story is very close to my story.even my sis in law was the same.she use to hug him and whenever she wants to eat out she will insist my husband to take her out.and keep demanding bring me this take me there.ohhhhh i was so tried of it.finally i decided to talk to my brother in law.i spoke to him on the phone.cause i had no guts to talk to him face to face about his silly wife.but i just told him that i think your wife needs your company very badly.my huband feels bad for her so he has to give her the company and then i really feel left out.so if u both try to work out it would be eaier for me to work out with nick.and he was shocked listing to it.and i still don,t know wht had happened between them but after that day she left my husband alone.though my relation with her is not very nice but i don,t care.i love my husband to death and i can do anything to get him back that was my attitude.i hope one day even u can get rid of this sister in laws.all the best. dia replied. hmm..It really sounds odd.

But I knew my hubby could tell his mother some problems we faced on the first night(we were entirely new and failed to workout ) and she told my fil to take him to Dr. and so he did.
But after an year when he told me he told it to his mother, i'm shocked and remembered how she used to tell me not to get tired in night and to go to sleep early.Later after our marriage she simply changed and seperated our beds to hall where mil and fil sleeps.
Now when I go on vacation to IND, I sleep beside my MIL .I know this is because the leniance my hubby given to her even in bedroom matters. I was not dare enough to express my feelings because he feel himself mommyboy and still he sleeps in her lap which looks odd to me.
In fact, in my family my mom doesnt entertain my brother to lie in her lap.so, i dont know how it sounds to everybody,,but i dont like it...tell me too ways to stop his intimacy ...

He is 30yrs now and that we have a toddler , I dont want to make it repeated when we go next vacation.

Tell me ways please!!Is anyone experienced it?I cant say it loud because I have soft relation with my mil that is the reason cant say anything.But It makes me embraassing to see him keep his hands around mom's waist and lying in her lap ...As I see those scenes in bollywood movies, I cant decide whether to feel odd or not.But sure I get annoyed. Preeti replied. Hi Julie,

I think if the relationship was so pure, they would not be talking in private about how yr brother in law can satisfy your bhabhi in bed. And when your husband says that she's like his mother, then ask him whether he talks like that to his real mother.

If yr bhabhi is having marital problems, that is no excuse for her to create problems in your marriage.

I think you should talk to your husband and tell him that you are not comfortable with him talking to your bhabhi on intimate matters. You can put it across that you don't worry about him, but rather about her - that she might get emotionally attached to him and that will not be good for either her or his brother and their married life..

If that doesnt work, then ask him if it would be ok for you to behave similarly with your brother -in -law (that might or might not work..but then you need to try everything to stop this nonsense)...because that is all that this seems to be - nonsensical flirting...

Incidentally does his brother know (or care) that his wife is behaving like this?

take care...