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I like this guy who studies at the same univeristy as me. He is doing Medicine while I am doing pharmacy. We meet quite often at the library and basically we are both attracted to each other. We have never spoken, just smiled or said a faint hello and mostly he looks at me a lot...like if I look up from my work I find he is looking at me.

My dilema is that 2 weeks back I took my nephew and niece to the community centre for a swim and I saw this guy there. He has somehow made a connection I feel (I could be wrong) that I am married and these were my kids. When I met him he is completely avoiding me. I have never spoken to this guy so I can't approach him but I just feel so gross coz I really like this guy and I don't want to loose out on a relationship just because of a misunderstanding.

What should I do? I am too shy to approach him and start talking to him...I am so confused!

Please help me with your suggestions and I don't mind ppl being frank but rude ppl please do not reply. If you do not have anything nice to say...don't say anything.

Thanks. goldie replied. hi.well, this seems a case of misunderstanding obviously.you can try to befriend him like wait to \";bump\"; into him in the library or hall.. and get some conversation started.then slowly you can let him on the fact that these two kids were nt your own and that you were surprised to see him at the comm. centre... that should rectify the situation Disha replied. Well here in the US lot of ppl have kids and are studying..it is a common thing. but yes you are right before jumping to conclusions he should find out for sure what the facts are.

I have decided to play cool and let nature take it's own course. If we are headed for a relationship it will otherwise for now I should just concentrate on completing my degree and not get side tracked by such issues.

Thank you both for your response. someone replied. First of all, you both do not have a relationship 'yet'!..all you have done so far is look at each other and have said 'hello' thats it...So I would say that you should take it cool and wait & see..How can anyone assume that a student studying in a college have 2 children..?..If he is really interested in you and has strong liking he will try to find out if you really are married or not!....if he does not even take the step to find that out..then do you think that his liking for you is so strong??.....So don't confuse yourselves,wait and see ,dont take any steps towards this person and goodluck with your studies. console replied. Misunderstandings dont clear on their own.just give it a try,dont be shy.next time if you see him say hai! ask his name,introduce yourselves and start a conversation and clear the misunderstandings if he has any.instad of telling this to a friend or thru any other source it is always better to do it on your own.there is always a first step to any thing.so go ahed and dont be shy.everything will turn out fine.