Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

I am having unusual feeling, I don't know it is wrong or right.I have been faceing unexplained infertility since 10 years.some people say if it is unexplained , the husbands sperm must be allergic to wifes egg.I am getting thought I should have sex with another man and get pregnant.believe me I don't want to love that man.only sex and want to have child.I am that desparate.What should I do? Is it ok to cheat on husband to enjoy the motherhood?.If another man is promise to keep it as secret?.Please give me suggestions.I can't think my life with out having child.I never loved another man in my life other than my husband.
desperate replied. Hi, I am deseprate also. Husband's sperm count is very low and I have caught with my age. So as a last attempt I am visiting GG hospital, Chennai through the recommendation f my aunty. Do something like this. Trust me having an affair does not help at all.

hopeful ankur replied. yes.. u can do it if u feel like doing... after all u are the best judge for yr problems. i am staying in gulf and can help u when ever i come back to india. let me know. N replied. Do feel for u, but that is not a good idea at all. what seems good today may be the one thing that eats u up the rest of ur life and may be ur future child with the other man. Its an identity that u will loose and many untold, unexpected probs can come up. and if u love ur husb so much then u shud both make the decision of adopting.... who knows! may be showing compassion and love to a truly deserving little one may bring in happiness into ur lives as well. RR replied. Also think that he might not keep it a secret in the end.. try other ways to enjoy motherhood.. which will always keep you happy knowing that you dont have to fear about anything ..
there are so many right ways and off course adoption is always there.
all the best Sunshine replied. My friend, we can all understand what u are facing and the reason behind such thoughts, but sex for the sake of sex with someone else is not the solution. There are other ways to get pregnant. Consider Artificial Insemination, or donor sperm or donor egg. At the worst consider adoption. Cheating on the man that you claim to love is definately not an option.
That my dear could ruin your life. I suggest you talk to your husband and doctor and consider any of the above except cheating.
Heartily in DISAGREEMENT with you!

Regards,
Sunshine