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Im a 32 year old female working in a BPO. I worked as a S?W engineer

for soemtime in an MNC but quit after my kid( 6years)
And joined this BPO where I’m into techinical writing. Though I get

paid much less than I used to earn before, I was happy because I had

flexible working hours.
All was well till I fell in love with a colleague of mine who is 8

years younger than me. Atleast I feel so. We even got physical twice

and now he says he is feeling guity for my husband. He says he watns to

be friends with me now but I feel I cant be friends with him anymore.

Im really ashamed that though he is younger than me, he realised his

fault first though im not able to come out of it still. I told

everything to my hubby yesterday and he was shocked as he could not

believe that I can do soemthing like this. He feels very bad but loves

me too much to leave me. He forgave me and said I should not even talk

to that man. I know m yhusband is feeling miserable inside but is not

showing it as I know he really loves me. I have no excuse for what I

did ‘coz my husband is really good. Don’t know why I did all this and

now Im not able to come out of this…That guy is back to normal and

stopped talking to me completely.Though I know it is only good for me

that he doesnto talk to me again, Im somehow feeling miserable.Im not

able to believe that he could get over all this within no time. I

really like him even now but also don’t want to cheat on my hubby

again. Also that guy did not chaet me because he told me in the

beginning itself that he likes me but likes amny other gals…Infact he

chats a lot in the office online and have amny gal friends. My husband

says I should not leave the job but should forget everything and move

on. I hate myself for all I ddi but feeling very angry for that guy but

cant blame him for using me because he made everythign so clear from

the beginning. His only ocndition otherwise was once he finds someone

serious in his life, I shud be ready to leave himw ithout feeling

bad..He also told me that he can come out of this as he is a man and

since Im a woman, I may not do so easily so I shud think well..I was

not ready for that ……I don’t think it is his mistake because he told me

clearly his rules…It was me who cud not bleleive that he can do it so

easily so I just cant blame him. How to come out of this mess sheena replied. dear kirtana,

i can relate your life very much, as i had been through the same.

As you realize your mistakes and your husband has forgiven you, please move on with your life. try forget the past. I know it wont be easy... but do try. Live life.
The guy, has used you. U were vulnerable, so u fell for him. U felt that you love him, knowing that you might not have any future. You are a very strong woman to realize and accept all that has happened.

Try connecting to your husband. Also try new things with him. Try bring some fun into your sex life. Talk openly with him abt your desires. If your husband is wise enough, he will understand.

And take life as it comes. No one os perfect. Niether you.. nor your colleague.. nor your husband. We need to accept ppl as they are. You are very couragious. Be yourself, and act smart.

take care