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hii dear i am posting this reply as i saw that your post already had so many replies and some how felt that u might overlook my reply
i was also in same boat as urs i moved to usa have a kid didnt know driving and some how felt my husband ignored me
i agree to suggestions by others to learn driving but if thats not possible u can develop intrest in internet surfing reading on the net
etc to pass your time
about hubbys attention i thoink most of the indian women do too much hubbyus so they take them for granted ,now change your behaviour he will realise it definately eat before him ,be smart dont be like all indian women who have nothing in life but only kids and food to talk about and dress diffrently ,get your self some nice haircut ,get some pretty dresses ,whenever he comes back look your best but again dont show too much attention to him look as if you are happy wit your life ,definately that will change his attitude for you
in my case i was like most women here but in one year i learned driving ,then i started wearing good dresses like skirts ,capris,dresses .
got a nice hair cut .got my hair highlighted .now i get a facial every month and eyebrows shaped ,always keep my legs and hands waxed (very imp ,men hate hair on women body)
i also lost some extra weight
now i look great and i feel when ever i go out with my husband he feels great about me
even in the evening when i take my kids out to play i dress good and look diffrent from other indian moms and fel good when other men turn their head twice to look me
(this doesnt mean i want to cheat my hubby but i some how feel i look good and am diffrent )
i eat my dinner if my husband is too late and if he is watching game and is least bothered i go in the bedroom and do surfing then sleep
i thought initilly that if i talk about it it will change but i talked so many times and back to square one o now i changed my self
i think most iundian women here in usa tend to ignore them selves and start looking more like aunties ,look like a girl so what you have kids
talk about things other than food and kids
try to look glamorous
you will love your self and i am sure it is gonna work for u

shailu replied. hi dear!
I heard from u again...But my hubby doesnt seem to be intrested in my appearence how I look.Does it make difference if I dress glamorous.Generqally i dont spend much on dresses and make up ..so just get adjusted with the dresses I got from Ind. So, shd I need ot change mself? Thing is he gets attreacted when I wear saree and get ready beautiful.So ,I feel let it be rear and not to make it common ..so I wear only occassionally.

After delivery I'm getting too much hair on body, and waxing is making it to grow more. DO we have any other permanat solution than waxing?!He never told me he hate hair...but probably u r right? he tease me sometimes like joking my hair on upperlip .
but he says he gets attracted to me only if I serve him better than decorating myself...he doesnt give importance to beaty...Is he not right?