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My daughter is 1.9 months old and i enrolled her in a playschool. My husband and i went with her for 2 days and she was fine. The third day my father and father in law went to drop her and she started crying. The next day she refused to go but my mom took her forcibly after telling her she was taking her to a mall. From that day onwards my daughter refuses not only to go to school but to step out of the house. She cries and tries to hurt herself by banging her head etc. if forced. She otehrwise was a very extrovert child and loved to watch TV etc. but now she does not even let us switch on the TV etc and just wants to play in 1 room.
Has anyone experienced something similar and any solutions? Lopamudra C replied. My son is 2 yrs 2 months old. I enrolled him for play school when he is just 2 yrs for playgroup. since then he is unable to adjust himself with the school going concept(technically he went to school after summer holidays from end june 2010 till date) and every day in morning he refuses to go to school.But still my husband and myself tried to make him understand but still we get complains from the teacher that in the mid of the class hours he cries to go back home with his grand father. We became more worried last week when all his batchmates went for a free trip from school with the teachers but he refused to go and stayed back at school all alone waiting for his grand father to come and take him home. My son is not at all enjoying his playschool.

Could you please suggest me how to handle the situation? Shweta replied. Hi Reshma
Now she must be 2.1 years but believe me firstly,the parents are the role models to their kids. It takes time for a kid to adjust with the new environment and since both of you had gone for 2 days with her to school, the feeling of seperation in the child' s mind already starts developing. That is the crucial time where you have to be with your kid and have a positive feeling within yourself. As parent you can be the perfect role model to the kid. Take her to a social gathering where there are few unknown faces and kids of different age groups are there. when you are alone with her, talk to her about the school- new friends, teachers who is going to love her a lot. Vatsala SN replied. Hi Reshma,

Although it is too early to wonder why your child is crying in playschool, try to make her comfortable by being keeping her in the school for just half an hour or so so that she can adjust to the new surroundings. My grandson could never adjust and so we stopped him completely from going. But even the next year and the next, he was the same introverted self and cried most of the time. He is now 7 and still is the adjusting process. It is better to prepare your daughter and convince her that she can have an enjoyable time in playschool now itself. Attract her with some incentives. Gook Luck and God bless her.