hi priya,
at first, please read with open mind.

i didnt want to give advice,,actually i m away from it ! i shared because i think it was right for my baby...
dont you share every tiny things about dhylan !!! do i and neone comment on it !
then why is it, you are commenting on wat i said for nirja.
yesday too you said the same words,,,i didnt take it that to my mind,,but today too,as if you were after me,,if thats the case,,,just want to share that :
i never said that you or to neone have to do that or please do it.i just talked that i did that for nirja..thats all..and i think its good for her.
c, again, i just told yesday,,,that if sharing is the problem, then i think i v all need to stop things over here !! right.

but if thats the case, this board doesnt need neone sharing of talks,,,for proper judgement to everyone.

if you are saying there is no such things as habits, i would recommend you to search for it in google..in india too, if you believe in indian stuffs, people make it a habit by the time they turn 1 year,,otherwise why you all talk about scheduling kids to sleep, mealtimes !! its all same,,its nothing but making them habits for wat to do things at wat time !!!
in the past post you have even counted the number of ounces of food,,which is not supposed to be done, because all the measurements are acc to american babies, and each babies eat differntly-- dont they..and our babies just dont fit in that measurements.
do they complete all you prepare !!! NO,,,but its a habit of making them eat atleast 75% of wat they are supposed to eat !!! for good of them.

just like that, i think for nirja, its a time for me to get her into the habits of some things that i think will ease my life later on.

also not to mention, i too have household work, nirja and my college hours...
all by myself,,i dont even have a nanny,,and after my college hours, housework,and all my practising, i will never get tired of taking care of nirja,even if i m tired and exhausted doing 3 million things surrounding me..i remember myself making her evening meal twice, because she didnt like the one i prepared prev for her.

just shared with you, that if you dont agree to some point, it is okay and not neccessary 2 comment on wat others do..tell me if i was wrong,,i will love 2 correct myself..
things are different for all of us,,arent they,,,
then why to comment on others,,
i respect your and everyones opinions, and i expect the same not only from you but from others..
and also to mention that my this message is not to insult you or nething like that. but just that if you share eveything about dhylan, and nobody minds,,why you mind all that i shared about nirja !!!!

sheetal, when anushka was not teething or crawling,,werent you worried, and that time i remember your words that \";anushka is fine without teeth\";,,you said that in the post when i and priya were talking about apple a day keeps docter away...now tell me where does anushka not having teeth comes between the talks of apples !! check the post...
its understood that you did feel worried,,even i am worried about nirja,she didnt eat past 2 days cz of whole upper jaw ruptured.,,but does that mean i will comment that feeling sad about it...i will never do that.and keep doing that again and again.

also, to come back to habits and scheduling,,i remember when you came at my house and nirja wasnt set at her sleeping schedule at her 3rd month,,i remember you telling me that give set her schedule or else you will not get enough sleep, also you told me to give her bath at night to make her sleep,,,...i told you i was breastfeeding and bf babies do wakeup everynow and then,,, and also that she had cold and my dr didnt agree for her to bathe at night.

even priya, when i talked to you about the same thing,,i remember your words,give your baby formula if you want her to sleep !! i remember crystal clear when we had a good long talk at nirjas' 5th month !! and i remember very nicely because i wanted to make her sleep, its not that, but i felt that i should not do that...did i commment on it,,until now !! no right...

now tell me girls, wat is scheduling, wat is habit !!!! if there is no such habit or scheduling,,why you were the ones giving such words to others !!!!
m i right or not...

tell me onething, if we are here to share and talk about eachother babies, wat is wrong in talking about the tips we use for our babies !!

i expect not to take it otherwise or an insult or offending..
this is open board to talk free and at the same time respect everyones opinions and talks.i dont intend to compete or insult or offend neone,,i m here to learn/share/talk about baby things and thats just wat i m doing.if i m wrong, point me, i will be very happy to correct myself, but i will not allow you or neone to comment on wat i do for nirja unless its wrong !

Thanks and Regards.
Hetal

Priya replied.
Hetal it is very hard for most mothers here to juggle evrything when you comment on things you do for nirja it is good that you can cope with all that plus other things but other mothers here i fell would feel insecure that they can not do that much also then they start to compare and feel insecure about there child...it is very natural to feel like that knowing that you have all the tricks to get you child going thrrough milestone. what sheetal is trying tosay is that she tried for anushka to crawl but with what you did for nirja did not help her.
the comment i made about the 3 million things to do is general not directed to you. most mother here will agree it is very hard to juggle evrything at times with a baby whether it is 0 months or then 2-3 years old.
i remeber i suggested formula to you at 5 months when we talked on the phone i didnt thinmk that you would take that to heart that someone suggested something to you. i know of mothers that fed there child solely bm for 1 year but that is not always the case for all mothers. gIVING FORMULA AFTER BABYS BATH WORKED FOR ME AND HE SLEPT WELL FOR 3-4 hours after bath so for me that was some rest time too otherwise i gave bm when i could.
Priya

Sheetal replied. Hi Hetal,

by no means I had any intention to offend you in any way. Infact, my post was not in reply to you or any of your post. I just wrote it generally, considering a lot of us, including me were worrying about our babies' development. But its just that I realized there is no point, and i was sharing it with everyone.

And Hetal, scheduling and development are two different things. Sleeping habits, eating habits, thats somethign we can try to schedule. But developments like crawling and teething is something internal to the baby whom we don't have any control over. I don't understand how they are related.

Anyways, I am very sorry if you felt bad. Your worrying is justified. Everyone worries, including me, so all i wanted to say is relax.

Regards,
Sheetal