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Briefly my hubby is like a puppet in his mothers hand and without having second thought he listens to her biased statements and ruined relation with my parents for the same problems like good sarees for sister etc...

His mom purposely spoils any occassion my parents celebrate with his family t avoid the good impression my hubby gonna get on my parents.
She is also like ur MIL acts so sweeeet and in my absence keeps on filling his ears with all the silly complaints?

So,now we r going to india for good. It's been 3yrs we stayed here ,and during ever vsit of us to IND,within month ,She successfully locked him from listening any truth I may tell him in whole 1 year of togetherness.(hope u got me)
So, now I'm tense ,If he stay for 1 year there,she might lock him for life.It might cost me my life to regain our love life!??!

So, what is the solution here in my case?!!How shd I avoid her from complaining him.Here I cant do anything with my hubby because he never care to listen me in that aspect.Else where he is good hubby though.

So ,tell me how to deal with her?Is there any strategy that I can stop her filling his ears?
Pl note that till now,She acts vvery fond of me and I too.Our relationship as MIL and DIL is really envious to anyone outsider as they dont know how she spoilt my hubby's relation with my parents!

SO ,pl tell me suggestions that shd n't spoil my relations with them and shd be in a way that she shdn't know that her complaints to her son r effectively working.It might boost her confidense on son and might even go further to spoil our relation.(somehow she achieved this too in last vacation ,My hubby is not that pompering now).

SO,Pl tell me solutions in a strong way.
To add to that,I'm really waste of anything in being tactic at cases. So ,really depressed that I'm fit for nothing.How to behave confident to my hubby.

Because my hubby never accept thay r lying.He spoils terms with anyone his mother tewll bad 'bout!
If she says god is RAKSHASA,Despite of all the good god has done or him..He can start hating GOD even.Because I believe my parents to be gadly nature being kind to anyone in our circle(probably everone feels it 'bout parents,but this is the truth my FIL used to accept ,,,Now he too changed his attitude due to my mil's words against them).My MIL is so powerful and I trust her wisdom to spoil any great relation.So I'm scared!

So,Tell me how to deal with my life in IND??! We'll be in different city but every weekend my huby visit them.so, I can tavoid him going ther in any way but some weekends I might go my parents home.So,,durng that time she might wrk towards her GOAL.I know her goal is set to fix her son not to talk to my parents in his lifetime, and if possible she would like to make him rock heartend to me not to buy anything for me too.
My MIL and SIL(*she's married with 2 kids but she spend her time mostly here)interfere him in buying a blouse even.So he feels exactly what the say and y they said it.They r too economic in buying anypiece for me AND ONLY ME.
I know the wayss they comment me in my back,so Pl tell me how to avoid them from commenting my parents adn me?!

I have a baby and she is center of his life now.I'm afraid she might reduce his love towards his daughter too??!?!?will it happen with any father ?
Sheetal replied. hey getting afraid will not solve the prob u need be strong and firm in whatever u do or act in front of them silently u will have to make ur mil feel that u have strength to react not fighting but in the same quite way that she does to u. u will have to be very strong dear and then u have one kis to look after so whatever u do pl. think about that too. i dont know to what extent mil's can go coz mine left his son coz he married me i dont know how can they be so ruthless. but all the best to u life is all about fighting for rights.
good luck and take care
Sheetal hi replied. dear dear dear...
don't start panicking about going back to India thinkign what might happen to you and your relationship with your hubby..eveything will be fine..
Just stay cool and calm..Father will never start hating his own daughter.that is for sure...
And you just keep maintaining a good relationship with your parents and make sure that your daughter is equally involved with your parents just like she is with your inlaws...
Let your hubby get controlled by anyone..don't care..how much ever far away he goes from you ..he will come back to you..make it a policy to not ever fight with your hubby for anything...That is the secret to success in life!...Make it your policy to not bother him wiht any inlaw politics....Be glad that you are going to live alone not with your Inlaws!!!..
that would have been even more worser..
Good Luck.