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I am going through a very puzzling phase and would like some guidance. I am a happily married woman with 1 child. Due to my husbands nature of job we are posted in a new country for a period of 5-6 years.

My husband's job requires him to travel quite often. In a month we get to be together for a week or two and the other 2 weeks he is away. I feel pretty lonely when he is gone. I don't socialise much on my own because of my child, I have to be home in the evening to look after her.

I have no problems with my hubby, he is very loving, caring and a good father. He does everything for me without a flinch.

My problem is that off late since I have been going to the gym I meet this guy who comes to work out very attractive. We have never spoken we just look at each other and from the eye contact we make I can tell he is attracted to me. He has no idea I am married ofcourse and if he knew he would be out of there in a sec!

I just want to know are these feelings normal? Even if this guy approached me I would not go out with him or anything because I could never cheat. But this attraction for this guy bothers me. When I see him it's at the gym my day brightens up and I feel so good and happy. I know I sound crazy but pls let me know what u think.

Thanks sonie replied. Hi,

Pls don't cheat on your husband whatever happens. Cheating makes a marriage a very nasty affair. Think about your child, she needs her dad. period!!

Your husband seems like a good chap...so don't lose him just because of some attractive guy in the gym... and if something does happen between the two of you and when the \";gym guy\"; finds out that you are married...he will dump you after using you.

So be careful!!

dias replied. u might have brushed him ,if he comes with that attention.But I think, y to invie such situation even which might make u leniant to one person in world even if he is unknown to you!

Thank your soul ,it brought u this site. Or it miht have at least led to that scene that he approach you,though nothing than it.After all we r indian woman .,Even we feel its a sin to think 'bout other man.
I appreciate for your decision to change your time.Avoid looking at him even if he changes his timings acc to you.

Priya replied. No you don't sound harsh at all. Thank you for your input and yes you are right. He is not worth it, I have not thought of having an affair with him just to clarify things. That has not even crossed my mind. I just find him attractive that is all.

Even if he approached me for e.g. I would have brushed him off coz that's the kind of person I am.

But I have decided I am going to change my gym timings and before you know he will be history.

But thanks. frnd replied. Hi Priya,
why do you want to spoil your peaceful married life? Frankly speaking this way you are inviting nothing but trouble. now you may think whats wrong in thinking about him but it will increase slowly , things may go out of your control .so put end to that nowitself.
May be am bit harsh now but i have seen similar thng happening to one of my friend.