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My six year old daughter is very timid.She is good at studies but a very weak personality.She cries very often on minor issues and fears large groups.I used to hit her very often when she was 2-3 years.

How to reverse the agony which I have caused her.I want her to be emotionally strong.Please help!!! Laxmi replied. Hi Rashmi. U hv already done gud amount of damage to ur daughter' s self esteem and confidence. Pls stop scolding/ beating her.
Damage control will take ur energy , time and test ur patience and resolve to instill confidence in ur baby.
Though, Im not a psychologist bt I hv done Gharbha Sanskara classes. Just remember one thing- they r gng to learn everything fm you, first and then from the society when they socialise.
1. Ur behaviour will matter the most. Be generous enough to encourage ur kid in what ever she does- studies, sports, paintings, dancing, singing etc.
2. Don' t shout, yell or beat her for bad behaviour. coz' she in real does not know wots good or wots bad. Speak about Good HAbits & Bad Habits. For Eg: Oh! you beat ur friend thats a bad manners/ habbits. U r a GOOD GIRL with bad habbit. This will make a difference.
3. If you have garden in ur society, take her thr and encourage her to play with other girls. Discuss school matters etc.Take her to b' day parties. Even if she is scared of people pls try this. Socialising is a very imp aspect of growing kids. They learn so much.
4. Pls make a habit of story telling session an imp. part of sleeping regime. In that stories u can talk of ladies/ girls/ emperors/ kings who had strenghth, power and confidence.
5. U make feel her that is needed, her opinions are respected...whether its a choice of dresses she wears or the kind of sunday she wants to spend or even what meal/ breakfast should be prepared on Sunday.
6. Eventhough, we need to be soft on kids, but as a parent we need to guide them and scold them tactfully if they are doing wrong,
7. TRY THIS PRACTICAL- when ur baby sleeps. With in 10 mins of her deep sleep pls talk to her. This technic is called as SLEEP TALK. Talk only positive things. eg- u r a strong girl. U hv many friends. All like you coz, u r a brainy/ strong child etc.....

Pls practise these things and you will get fabulous results.

Bye & BEST OF LUCK