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Name: Sap

Hello Friends,

I wish to discuss my situation with you and would be glad to receive suggestions from your end.
I have a baby girl 2 yrs old. I took a break for 6 months to spend time with my girl. Now i have to resume back to work. My mom is very active and enthusiastic and she happily takes care of my girl. There is only one slight problem. My mom' s way of bringing up a kid is quite different from the way i perceive things. She feels that whenever kids make mistake we have to scold them. I too believe it but i feel my girl is too young to understand the scoldings. She is 2 now. I tell my mom she can scold her when she does anything wrong but to do it when she is around 3 or 4 yrs old , then she will be able to understand at least. For this my mom doesn' t get convinced and asks me to allow her to take care of baby as she wants to. I am very confused. I wish to stay with my baby and take care of her, involving her in different activities and bring her up in a different way. But i cant do that bcos i have to work. Both my mom and my mother in law have been working ladies in their entire life and they have struggled a lot to bring up their kids. So they expect me to go to job no matter what happens. They cannot see me quitting IT career and look after the kid. This is a very strange situation i am facing and I really need someone' s advice on this matter. My husband got a job opportunity out of India for 6 months and i took a break of 6 months and traveled with my baby along with him. Al these 6 months i have heard enough scolding from both my mom and mil that i quit the job. According to them they wished me to stay back in India, go to job, leave kid with my mom and let my husband work abroad. They are not bad but their thinking is very different. There is generation gap. I am very confused and not able to understand what to do next. Please help me.

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