Name: Pavithra
If you had cared to read my comment carefully you would have seen where I have written very clearly stating,that \";it is alright if one wishes to have a boy.\";
I am not against having or wanting to have a boy,but just b'coz one's wish isn't fulfilled and gets a girl instead immediately wanting or the thought of even aborting the baby is cruel esp for women like me who haven't been able to have a baby even after 2 yrs of marriage.
You will never be able to understand that ever Priya,if you were in my shoes only then would you understand.
Secondly,if your doc has said that then if I were in your place I would have asked her what is the use of your education,I am sorry but I am like that.
Thirdly,nobody can or has the power to control the wishes of a person,you state that its b'coz of your in-laws that you want a girl,and that everybody lives to please our in-laws,once again,I have had worst case of in-law problems,I single handedly fought them tooth and nail,this after I could not tolerate their harassment,and inspite of that I have emerged successful.I want a girl they know it too but I don't care.So do my friends who have in-law probs , they have a girl child too and they also told their in-laws to get lost.
So you wanting a boy or a girl does not depend on your in-laws.
You cannot blame everything on your in-laws,thats the easiest thing to do.Do you feel in anyway that your parents esp your mother didn't go thru the in-law turmoil at all,on the contrary they lived in the era of dowry deaths which have come down in today's world considerably,my mother faced the same problem worse than mine,and yet she told her mil to get lost when my mommy had me.Even my father told his relatives and folks to get lost.
My aunt has 2 daughters,her hubby told her to abort the second baby since she was a baby girl,my aunt told him whether he wants or not she is going to have the baby,and today the second baby is his lifeline.
You know what all I wanted to put forth ,there are going to be countless of jerks esp of Indian origin even doctors (whether they are in U.S or not) in this world who are going to comment lots of stupid stuff ,but if you agree with them they win and you lose and also defeat the whole purpose of any form of hope for any girl child ever.
Yes I believe if you def do not want a girl,go ahead and abort the baby,its better to be not born than to live with the knowledge of \";not wanted feeling \"; throughout her life.
And i have to say that being an educated woman it comes as a surprise once again.
I'll want a baby girl def,and I would def want her to stand up for herself,the way my mother and my aunts have taught me.
One more thing,my mil has 3 sons,she always wanted a girl,she also had lots and lots of fil issues,yet her want for a girl child never went away,she has done lots of hurtful things to me which I will carry for a lifetime but I know if she comes in my way of having a girl child what I would do.
Bring up your girls with a feeling of self worth and dignity.All the best.
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