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Hi Friends, I know this board is not relavant .But we have good advisors here so I want to pour out here!
I have a daughter of 18months old .She is attractive and cute though she is thin.Now a days I am observing her becoming dark (Except face and hands whole body's compexion was some how not fair) but now a days her hands and remaining body is also becoming Dark.I live in LosAngeles and weather is similar like south part in india.Now that it's summer, is it happening?!
Actually,I wouldnt have bothered at all.But the thing is I'm going to India witin 2 months and relativess definitely compare her with me.I'm so fair and called as beautiful.Now it became a bigg problem because I can't bear if anyone compare her with me.Sometimes while seeing her I'm becoming crazy that want to pour acid on me to spoil my face so that none will compare my cute little one with me.
As a mother I hope atleast somebody can find sense in my worry and can suggest something...

Plz friens tell me what will be her color finally? do u have any similar experiences? she is called fair too.But from the past 3wweeeks some change has come (she had fever and didnt eat anything for a month) and me and my hubby r worried 'bout it.
My husband love her verymuch and he keeps asking me whether she will be his color(he is not fairone) ? he wants her to be fair as me.Her face is fairer than me ,,but other parts r obviously dark? Pl tell me ideas to improve her body color.


Plz friends , look from positive angle and u can know what I'm going thru.I know there r real many problems and my problem is trivial.But this is the bigg worry now. Because I want to c people prasing my baby and not me.Nowadays I'm not dressing up well because of past experiences of frends saying me 'looking smart in this dress...or so...\"; wihout passing good comment on my baby like she is cute.

But, this is neither a solution ,right? finally ,I want her to look prettier than me.Peole should praise her and only her not me.Relatives shouldnt compare mycolor and her color.Now, pl tell me suggestions. kajol replied. I am an indian south african, born and bred. it amazes me to think that in this day and age indians still make comparisons between light and dark skinned people. u really are a simple mum, and i hope that ur beautiful baby grows up with more sense and maturity that u or ur husband seem to have. as for the advice ur looking to change the colour of her complexion...grow up woman. ur so beautiful and light skinned, yet u dont have the intelligence to go with it. who cares what ple say or think, the only one who is going to affect ur baby is u and ur husband. YOU are going to grow her up thinking that she is not pretty enough because of the colour of her skin. YOU are going to give her a complex..
do u have a problem with people who are not fair? will u teach ur daughter the same thing?
if ur relatives in india say something, then tell them that god loves all his children irrespective of their colour. look at Hanumanji...he isnt fair, yet he was never ostracised by Raam and Sita.
Ur now a mum, put ur vanity aside, who cares if u look beautiful in ur dress etc..u sound very vey vain.
concentrate on being a good mum to ur daughter and bringing her up like aproper indian girl.
if she was fairer than u i think u would have been very jealous of her.
u rally really make me sick!!! ss replied. Are you not a matured enough women ??? If someone compares my child with color etc i would give it back asking them to mind their own buisness... If oyu were so particular in color and what others would remark abt it..i think your kid would defenetly suffer from ego complexes later on.. better you get treated for thinking like this... I have a question,... what if your baby was not fair in the first place would you give her away to some one??? Stop this rubbish simple replied. u understood me well !
As pallu said I want her to be best and as any mother I feel my baby is so CUTE and really she is attractive and b'tiful too!
I just was worried how come her color changes all of a sudden.I consulted Dr. already and she assured me she is doing great and healthy.
Anyone can't stop admiring my baby for her naughty things and b'ty.

But the thing is I dont want unnecessary comparisons frm others. so I asked u solutions to get her back to her fairness.But I could find some people over-reacting for this.For them,I would like to say something..Like Pallu said...No mother is bad .But everymother wants her daughter to be better than her .And any father wants her to be intelligent and successful than him.For that they might worryy and want to share with understanding people.There is nothing wrong in asking for suggestions.
Real parents try every possible way to make kids better than them.
Thats it!
Twinkle replied. First and foremost,only you can help her.

Try applying besan,curd instead of normal baby soap.This not only makes the baby skin more soft,it also inhibits body hair in the long run and she will be grateful to you for this esp.But you have to religiously follow this for 2 to three yrs and more if possible.

Secondly when I told that only you can help it also meant in addition to the above remedy.

Tell her that she is beautiful and pretty,it will give her lots of confidence that you love her and also find her attractive.

Dress her up attractively,also give her the much needed confidence in herself,appreciate her for small efforts,I know you may be doing it already,what i mean to say is ,when a girl is confident there comes and unusual prettiness in her.

Also it will also help her in future to be smart and a feel good factor about her.

When others compare her to you ignore them,thats what people are always going to do.Its imp that you feel good about your daughter's looks than others.

Just to give egs look at Bipasha Basu,kajol,lara dutta (she is the ex miss universe),even in U.S.A,people love dark skinned people b'coz they are considered beautiful for eg,halle berry,beyonce,whitney houston etc.

When others draw comparison with you ,tell your baby how beuatiful these above people are I am sure you guys are going to be just fine dear.

You take care ok .

All the best. a woman replied. i've not heard abt this kind of thought before. i will say u a sick or one with psycho problem but yes this is rubbish. pretty is right u shud see a dermatlogist coz it may be some kind of skin disease as u told she hd fever nd did not eat for one month. then why u did not think abt it. i think u both u nd ur husband r really an immature couple.....
u know i m also less fair then my mother but we both r good looking.
go to doctor! rekha replied. first stop comparing. I am mom of 17 months old daughter.I dont care about others but for me my baby is the most beautiful girl in the world.anyways u can use aloevera gel its good,try this and let me know the difference. simple replied. friends,I'm waiting to ur precious suggestions.Plz help me out to come out of worry.