Relationships  Discussion Forum

Hello all,
I have some strange doubts which I wud like to share with women out here ..
We are working couple with a kid ... I work in a s/w company (MNC)..of late I used to see many many ppl chatting on messengers(yahoo or msn) , so I decided to explore it ... I was shocked to know most of the ppl chatting are married men ..working for good companies and with kids ... They were open to meet me ..asking for my contact nos and open for fun. Though I never took anything fwd and stopped it , I got to know from these men that there are equal no of females open for fun (mostly married) ... Though initially it all sounded crazy but then I started to believe in it ...As I see in my own office some guys trying to flirt with me (again all married guys).

This has suddenly raised a 100 Qs in my mind ....
1) Are all men this way ? Has the society changed so drastically that no diff is seen between a married or single ?
2) My hubby is a very busy guy .. His cell mostly switched off and comes home late ...Now I have started to feel very insecure.. Is he really busy or Is he also busy flirting with someone in office ?
3) As he travels 1 hour up and 1 hour down to work ..I started to wonder, does he pick up and drop any female everyday ?
4) He goes quiet often to US also ... So again I wonder what happens there ?
5) he often goes for business dinners ... so i keep thinking if its truly business or something else and try to call him !
So basically I am starting to become a very suspicious person .. and losing my own peace of mind !
sometime back I found out that he was talking to some female ..no affair but kind of virtual friendship which was not told to me and he stopped immediately! That itself created havoc in our life and now things are back to normal !
Otherwise he is a gr8 guy, never given me any chance to complain , he is romantic. As he shows his love towards me or my son openly, my inlaws or any relatives never dare to say a word at me ... so honestly I live a life of a queen !
Then why such negative thoughts have started to ruin my peace ...Sometimes I believe Ignorance is truly a bliss ..Those not working and dont come across with such men or such incidents do have more peace of mind ..they mostly accept what their hubby tells them ...But after seeing such things happening right in front of my eyes .. I take everything with a pinch of salt ..slowly I am losing trust in him ... and wonder whats going on behind my back ?

Do other females also feel similarly insecure ? or is it me only bcoz of his previous episode ...

Am I acting crazy or the society, its values are all changing ?

How should we cope up with this new society / new culture which has hit many of us all of the sudden ?

Pls dont curse me for writing so negatively but it actually starting to concern me ..and I really felt like sharing it with someone .. somehow felt its not a good idea to share with hubby so wrote it down here !

Pls share ur views . if you also feel insecure and how you cope with it ....

Am I wrong to think this way ??

-Priya
rekha replied. your issue never a issue dont break ur head unnecessarily! Sanya replied. Welcome to the real world!! This internet was a boon for many of us but it has it's down sides too. If we can have a matrimonial site that gets 2 people from opposite sides of the world married why can't married men and married women cheat?

As far as your marriage goes darling...the more you think the more negative ideas will come. Have faith in yourself, your hubby and your marriage. Yes keep your eyes open about ususual things but don't become Sherlock Holmes and suspect his every move. It's not healthy for you and not healthy for your marriage.

And last but not least. Avoid such sites...ppl logging onto these may be in good careers but not necessarily good character people.

That's just my 2 cents!