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i am living in the US with my husband and 3 year old son. the problem is that i miss my parents and life in india so much that i have not been able to adjust to life here so much. my each living moment is spent thinking of my parents and our life in india. we had a very big social circle there and life was fun. here we are all alone and spl me bcz i am here on dependant visa and cant work or study. sometimes the only human contact i have for weeks on end is my husband when he comes back from office and my son....i have no friends here and live in a very english neighbourhood...nobody is ever home to make friends....i feel i am going dull by the day and am helpless do to anything abt it....
is there anybody else also going thru the same emotions? wat to do when u feel this way?
am i wrong to feel this way? my husband says its ok to feel this way but not for so long? madhu replied. hello parvati ji,
do't worry yaar it happens with everyone. look at me i came with my parents in us in 1996. you know i cried alot all the time every time. because there was nobody to make friend. it was in pennslyvania, but then we moved to california........... but now im use to. and see i got marry hubby from india now he is getting bored.... his friends in canada getting bored... so it happens with every one. does'nt matter with guy or girl...why don't you go to movie on weekends. go to temple, gurdwara, church, masque(imean according to your religon) make friends over there you will find lot of friends. take their phone numbers. HAVE FUN etc etc etc........... I am in USA replied. Hi Parvati,
Where do you live.If we live closer, I will come and knock at your door.
Hope you live closeby. PFTN replied. I faced the same situation 7 years back. Then I thought I am not going to be like this. We did not buy a car for the first 4 months as my husband office was close by and he will walk to his office. I got a map and I used to take the bus and go around doing some shopping or just travel for sometime and then I will come back home the same way. Then I started to volunteer. You can volunteer in churches, temples, hospitals and libraries. If your son has started schooling, then you can do the above. Or take him to play area where you will meet a lot of friends. You can contact the Indian association where you will come to know about the Indian get-together where you can meet so many people. Try to get your driving license so that it will be easy for you to go to many places like taking your kid to school. You can study in private institutions or community colleges when your husband can take care of your kid in the evenings. You have so many opportunities here. So try to use it. If you think of your parents, chat with them daily or talk to them daily for few minutes. It’s so hard to get adjusted initially but you will start loving this country as days go by. Wishing you the best. sarika replied. Hi Parvati.I too am in USA for 3 years.No kids yet. I felt the same when i came here.Could not stop thinking about my parents and friends and India.
I feel much better now.
I had a good social life in India and so started making friends here.What helped was my hubby was on a project so he had many indian workmates and hence i could find some indian friends in their wives.
For the first 2 years i was miserable.Since last year things have gotten better.
Do you want to be friends with me?I live in Seattle WA and am originally from Mumbai.
Where do you live?
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