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hi i'm at US with 2 kids. both r just 18 months difference. my first kid was suffering from severe eczema,food allergy when she was 6 months old itself.now she's 3 yrs old not yet recovered.i didnt send her skool yet dr. asked me to keep her home till 4yrs old.she's getting bored . she never allow me to cook sometimes she's crying for food. at that time i too starts crying i cant control myself. i'm getting too wexed. i too cant control her craze for food. atleast for half-an-hr she cried then only she'll be cool.but that 30mts myself & my husband feels too bad and v supposed thought god is not in our life. here too many steroids, creams ,oral drops v tried yet keep on trying but nothing seems working on her. so always itching ,scratching with bloody discharge so too v r facing with her. unfortunately my second child is also sick with same problem like first. but not a hereditary one. so v starts hate our life.here with us no one is for help.my parents r too aged , his mom is very sick so my f'therinlaw must be with her at India. so no one for help. so daily i'm sitting and crying infront of god. sometimes i didnt cook becos of my kids. so even whole day v didnt eat, night also v didnt sleep sometimes. mostly except sunday all days v r taking any one kid for doctors office. no solid food for my first kid .v stopped giving her food when she was 13 months old itself. only medicated milk not even cows milk. so she also getting irritated.v also didnt visit india for the past 5 yrs becos of kids. so now second one also exactly like my first kid ,second one also suffering. so our life i dont know whats the meaning in our life? kids always crying thr' whole night atleast 3 days in a week. becos of their itching evenif v give them a medicine. i dont know what to do? always daily v r crying in our life. they also have environmental allergy too. so taking outside is also the tedious for us. so always within 4 walls facing these nowadays starts hating life. v too really feels pity for our kids.they also nothing enjoy in their life . whether u belive or not v never so far go for restuarant have a happy dinner there with kids for the past 2 yrs. what to do ? unfortunately v too cant visit india becos of their treatment is here. if v plan to go there for 1 month, v've to pack all things milkpowder for both kids, even laundry detergents v've to pack that too getting frustating us. becos if v go ther eif they r happy there for 1 month then only v also happy .if anything like climate didnt suit them again the same problem like here v must face there. so what v think is nowadays \"; if v go there then v all must be happy\"; if a day comes like that once both kids r doing fine v may go to India. but v dont know when it comes almost 5 yrs gone. v also need a change in our life. ok. this is my problem v r too uch get depressed. feather replied. www(dot)freederm(dot)com/
juzt happened to see thiz link in our site..long back i read ur mesg so i searched ur post almost everuwhetre i juz found....all the very best Happy Mom! replied. Hi Everybody who supports my feelings and forward to help me, really very happy & thanx a lot. v plan to go back to India and stay there till our kids gets cured. Need all ur prayers. i really got mentally support and happiness for all of ur replies. thanx.

sneh... replied. dont loose hope .time will pass through the roughest day . my friend had a similar problem with her 2 daughters later she discovered her kids were allergic to number of food items but she also observed that whenever they went to india no problem with allergy
she doesnt even have carpet in her house because of allergy
try to go there for vacation hire a servant for cooking and one to take care of kids ..relax and take a break ,
make sure your kids are not weariong any gold ..coz sometimes gold also causes heat in body hello ! replied. Dear

Your story is hearrt wrenching.But dont worry,life is never going to be like this throughout.It will improve.Please dont lose faith in God.Please continue to pray and keep praying for the sake of your kids.He will solve all your problems.Its just that He's testing your patience and faith.He will give you happiness manifold for all the lost days.Also go back to India and try homeopathy.Tell me where you are in the U.S.I'll help you in all the way I can. nikki replied. Dear Momma,
i can understand wat u r going throught.My son had bad rashes due to 20-25 potty a day he skin broke badly.Then one fo my friend told me to use coconut oil even to clean his potty n apply a cream.It worked.Thought urs is different.I have avery stronge feeling that the eczema ur kids r facing is due to the baby food ur giving to ur baby.PLS THROW ALL THE CANNED N TINNED BABAY FOOD U HAVE.Give them natural indian food.LIke Moong ki dal with lot of ghee.Ghee cools the body from inside.Pls dont give them any artificial food.As this is a comman problem between working parents or parents outside india who depend on artificial food,either they have breathing problem,digestion problem or similiar problem.
Avoid any proceeded food all together.
consult a homeopath(my hubby is off n on to US n tells me how difficult it is to find homeopathic physician there n its too costly too)
PLS COME BACK TO INDIA.I m sure u wl get better help here even from ur parents n in laws n even good n reasonable domestic help here.U can hire a full time baby sitter,a cook(part time) n a maid for cleaning the home in the same wages as in US. Life is certainly going to b easier in india.Nwho knows the climate in india suites ur baby.Npls dont get ur stock of baby food n detergents from US.india isnt that bad has good sources.Remember to make ur baby wear cottons only.Rinse the clothes properly,if POSS dry them in sun as its best antiseptic,pls dont use any antiseptic after rinsing their clothes(my friend who advised me of coconut oil teaches nursing in peaditrics section n she asked me not to use it).
Pls note wat food creates allergy in them
(normally there is very rare allery of gluten (found in wheat) so one should avoid any thingof wheat like semolina,maida or wheat products n the other is of milk nits products)(THOUGHT I HAVE A VERY STRONGE FEELING UR KIDS R ALLERGIC TO ARTIFICIAL BABY FOOD N NOT WHEAT OR MILK)PLS AVOID MAIDA(FINE FLOUR)Moong ki dal over cookedwith pinch of turmeric n salt n add pure ghee its best for kids n old aged people.then u may start with higher food.If u want i can send u list of homemade recipe for baby food.
I HAVE A VERY GOOD REMADY BUT U MAY NT B ABLE TO GET IT IN US.MY DAUGHTER WAS BORN WITH BAD ERUPTIONS N IT STAYED FOR LONG.....NO MED AFFECTED...........THEN I RUBBED HER WITH FRESH COWS URINE(GAWMUTRAH)IT WAS MAGIC(ON MY GRANDMOTHERS ADVICE).BUT IF THE RASH IS BAD JUST DILUTE IT THEN GIVE BATH N DONT USE SOAP.ITS BEST ANTISEPTIC IN THIS WORLD.
I live in india........so if u plan to come to india do tell me i know few good homeopaths in northern part of india.I wl do wat ever i can to help u.
BEST OF LUCK.Any query direct it here.May b i can help.NKeep smiling:)
mother replied. Hi,
Please try homeopathy, its very effective.
I give you my example. 2 years back my son started getting bald patches in his head. I consulted best skin specialists in delhi for months but no improvemnt. Almost half of his head became bald. It was so painfull. All the kids used to tease him and I couldn't help that. I also used to cry but not in front of my child. I told him that have faith and everything would be fine. All these specialists they keep on suggesting one creme or other and did so many tests.then I met a homepathy doctor and she told me that this is a fungus infection and only homepathy can cure this but you got to be patience. I tried homeopathy with full faith and within a month I saw hair growing again on my son's head. Within 6 months his head is fully covered with hair, no more pains and no tears. So please take my suggestion and consult a homepathy doctor. My prayers are with you.
-a mother Important News replied. Also friend,
Which part of US are you in..If you live close by I am ready to help you in any way I can..Let me know Important news replied. Just take the kids and go to India.
You guys are in real bad condition and there is nto point in staying in this country with this kind of helplessness and torture.
About the treatment etc., jsut stop all of them and g oto India and start a living there..My friends kid has eczema ...Everytime she goes to India soemthing in India's climate or dont know what it is..that kids' Eczema just goes away ????!!!...She told me 'once she landed at the airport she coudl see the cahneg in her boy?!.. And Once back here it came back?!...
Onething... even when I came here to USA within 6 months I developed slight Eczema ???...Creams helped me....Not there anymore.
And God knwos may be your kids' food allergies will also go away...once you go to India...
Forget about $ or husband's job etc., for now and Plan your trip and go to India..May be there you can stay back for soemtimes until the kids are fine and your husband can come back here and work..

S M replied. just one more thing.Try to avoid using soap and other perfumed products on your baby.Try using either coconut oil,vaseline,even almond oil,olive oil can be used .

The idea is to reduce itching.Check out sometimes for signs ,certain foods can increase the itch keep a watch and as and when you find out which foods increase the itching & stop those foods.Wash the affected area with cold water and pat dry with cotton and immediately apply any of the above oils .

Secondly avoid the use of socks and shoes if its on the legs.Use cotton clothes.

Generally this problem arises b'coz of digestive problems.

Anyway all the best.

I really realy hope your babies get relief. saheli replied. Hi,
Its really sad to learn about your situation.
There was an article in USA today recently about allergies
Its in the health section of usatoday dated March 19th and its titled allergies.
I think Manee suggested that your kids allergies will be better in India. That may be true coz I have seen that Indians in the US have higher rate of eczema and other kinds of allergies coz we were never exposed to this environment in our childhood and we passed these genes to our children.

Why don't you also try homeopathy as lot of the people here suggested. It may work. Its all about faith.
But remember if you keep crying how will your children feel and what vibes will they get from you. So hang in there and try to be cheerful with them. Try to distract them with games toys and whatever it takes. Remember god gave u a problem and u need to be brave to face it and emerge as a winner. If you can laugh at the face of adversities then you have won the battle.
I know its easier said then done but try to cheerup your home atmosphere atleast for the sake of your kids. I can't even begin to imagine what they and you must be going through.
If you have any friends, then call them over to your house for a change. Maybe it will help.
Also take care of your health, eating etc coz you have to be healthy to deal with your childern's pain.
Best of luck!!
Saheli

S M replied. Apply coconut oil ,b'coz my dad had this for a very long time and he used to get lots of relief with this method ,and it was suggested by the doctor.

Secondly go to an homeopath.It works.

All the best.

My prayers with you. HI replied. dear friend

i can understand ur pain dear.

yes dear, it s really worrying when our kids r not well.

but, don't be sad friend, ur children r not well. it is a reason to worry
but don't be depressed. EVERYTHING'LL BECOME FINE.
try homeopathy dear, i also heard about that. alos if itwill better for them in INDIA MOVE TO india if ur jobs allow.

PRAY dear,. really GOD CAN CHAGE EVERYTHING. if u believe in any religion, we all r praying to same GOD. SO PRAY , DONT COMPLAIN. accept this from god.
as HE SAID, he know everything happening to us. HE LOVES US. SURELY he'll hear us.

so don't get frustrated, EVERYTHING will change,. sure

WHEN THNGS R VERY HARD WHEN WE THINK, WE CAN'T MOVE FURTHER, WE R TIRED, THEN MOVE WITH ALL THE STRENGTH LOOK TOWARDS GODS.

'LL PRAY FOR UR KIDS SURE DEAR.

U KNOW WHAT, UR KIDS WLL GET BETTER SOON.
BE HAPPY, MAKE THE KIDS HAPPY.

THEY;;LL BE CURED, SO THEY CAN GO TO SCHOOL, CAN ENJOY EVERYTHNG.

LOVE U AND THE SWEET LITTLE PRECIOUS ONES

LOVE U FRIEND


Manee replied. I am really sorry for what u going through.i really wish things to get better as soon as possible. but i want to share my experience with u.My son has mild form of eczema he has milk allergy .We go to US on and Off. Whenever we are in US his problem of itching increases but in india he does better.We live in a city(in India) where weather is hot and humid . The weather in US is very Dry and at times pretty cold too which is bad for a person having eczema.So In India they may feel better.Consulting a good homeopath is also a nice idea.
Have patience .I wish u all the best. priya replied. Seriously I felt so bad reading ur problems ... Oh god ! you are really a strong woman ! and ur story opened by eyes too... I used to complain so much abt my hubby coming home late as he works for long hours .. I behaved as if I am the one going thru major suffering inlife ... Now I feel mine is not a problem at all ! Have faith in God ... He will solve ur problems ...
Can I suggest something, this might sound very silly .. But do check with some good priest or temple in India(whichever is ur family diety) ...
There cud be some kind of dosha or whatever ..
Secondly Do consult some good homeopath in india ...We sometimes donot believe in all this but it has helped lakhs of ppl ...
Just to give u an example I had a severe dust allery and forgotten what it is to sleep in the night as I was always coughing or nose blocked and cud hardly breathe. tried 100s of allopathy medicines ... nothing helped. Homeopathy helped me ! My allergy is completely gone ... so in case u havent checked it out ...do try !

Let me know if you need some help to find a homeopath !

Take care,
Priya


Rani replied. I myself started crying after reading your mail. I can understand your situation very well.If god exists in real then he will solve your all problems.I will pray God for your childrens.
Dimple replied. So sorry to hear the situation u r in..i hope things get better soon. do u have any friends in ur area ?? or any other relatives who can give u mental support in this tough situaion.

let me know if i could help u in any way .sometimes all u need is a shoulder to cry or an ear to hear ur problems. so if u need somebody to talk to ..i will try to come here a often as possible

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