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I know most of us will say foe.But there are few lucky ones who have wonderful relationship with their mils.So whats it that their mils have, ours dont? I think its high time we should change our attitudes,we as a parent want our kids(my kids are still schooling) to have the best of everything in life ,and as soon as the son gets married we are the ones who make their lives misrable why? Because we dont really know how to give in gracefully.We must learn to let go of our kids as soon as they are capable of looking after themselves.Be always there for them (after all they are our childern)and never to EXPECT anything from them.The more u have expectations more problems u will have in life.Since at this age we cannot expect our mils to change lets try (when the time comes)and be good friends to our DIL, not for them but for ourselves and the family we love so much.So who all are with me?
love Piyusha replied. My God Snaha, atleast you are there to make a twist in replies otherwise my GOD I was going crazy reading all posts.MILS are being portrayed as 'shaitan ki atma'. And I'm amazed to see everybody's suggestion not to go back to India just because they have to live with in-laws. Inlwas are nothing but husband's parent respssible for raising your husband and making him a man worth marrying you! Imagine how much we lovw our kids..I'm pregnent nit knowing it'll be a boy or girl but if its Boy I have to surrender being his 'only lady' one day. I have to give space to DIL tooo. Isn't? I think problem rises when mother's wants a tough hold on their boys even after therir son's marriage.I guess its modern DIL's understanding to change the thought of old MIL\";S.Play some trick sothat they can get the desired respect and you can get required love.
Isn't. Tricky but good enough to end the 'TUG OF WAR' between saas-bahu. Aveni replied. Hi Sneha,

I agree to you in some way. I think there are both sides to this. I think when any girl gets married, she always dreams of that \";ideal\"; MIL. I am not married, but I have seen MIL's who are really wonderful and get along quite well with DIL's and that makes the Life goes on really well, especially when Kids are around. This has very much a positive influence on them and they are brought up in a loving environment. True, we cannot change MIL's as they have reached the age where they are not able to make change so we must change ourselves, our thoughts a little to make them feel comfortable as much as we can.

On the other hand, one of my friends MIL is very moody, she always wants things her way and she will not go out anywhere, not to eat outside, nor to anyones house. This keeps my friend to stay indoors with her all the time and that drives her crazy! Its very ideal to think that we will have one big happy family and all will go well.