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he all,
i had posted a msg here on 3/3/06 regarding the behaviour of my husband. right now my situation is getting worse day by day. 2 days back we got into a fight because the car that i use( he got it) is 11 years old. i've been using it on a daily basis only these past 2 1/2 months before he got a new car. now the car has some oil problems and he was blaming me for it saying................its because of u blah bla...this time u get a car for urself i 'll not spend a single penny....
also 10 days back when we were discussing abt buying a house he wants me to put in all my savings for which i refused. he brought up that subject saying when he comes to ur money u r so careful...bla bla bla...
now friends i came to this country on dependant visa. got a job on my own and currently got a promotion with gud salary. he has never had a joint a/c with me so far... i got my own credit card...bla bla bla.....as a husband shud'nt he been the one to do all this for me?
now y does he want my money when thats my only resource for me and my baby?
when i told him this he got very abusive during the fight......used all bad words and wants me to leave the house that minute.
where will i go with my baby? how will i face my family since i came to him against all their will?
the day when we had the fight,he was like\"; it was u who wanted the baby not me\"; he said the same words even when i was in lobor? while giving epidural in front of the docters.
then i was a li'l mad and told him
to give me this in writing so when my baby grows up i can tell him its because of this i left his dad. also i told him from now on then dont expect me
to do anything for u like cook or look after u, i can take care only the baby. he immediatly left the house n came back at 1 o clock in the morning.when i told him this he got very abusive during the fight......used all bad words and wants me to leave the house that minute.
where will i go with my baby? how will i face my family since i came to him against all their will?
even then that night i tried to give up my ego and tried talking to
him........but he refuses to talk to me ever since , eats out.
friends wat shud i do now? i dont've anywhere to go ...my mom will be here next month. i dunno how he'll treat her.

please advice!!
sss replied. Look that person is very selfish.He is not going to take care of your baby.I think a dad will not say such words when u are giving birth to his baby.He might be having negative feelings to you but not for the baby.But your husband has.Think of the enviroment in which your baby has to grow.

I think your parents can understand u well.They would not like you to suffer at ur husbands hands.Uska dimak satak gaya.

When a baby comes out,why cant he think it is his baby too.Why cant he be supportive.

Be strong.Dont let a penny to go out of your pocket for him.Save it for your baby.

And if things worse leave him.
Ur mom is coming.U go to job.Ur mom will take care of ur baby.