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Hi All,

I know the problem I am facing seems to be too old but still we have to get solution for this.
actually i am talking abt husbands who can't hear anything against their parents even if they are wrong.Its happening to me. I am staying alone with my hubby and we got married last yr...now my problem is that my hubby is too fond of his parents...I am not saying this is wrong but what hurts me more is that he never consults me or tells me anything about his job, his investments but he'd surely consult and inform his parents.
since morning till late night he'll get calls from
his parents about how was his day, what he had for lunch...how he drove and what he did the whole day.....................and each and every minute details..they'll discuss
and his parents are too imposing on me.....tehy start giving lectures to me also.....
I am not a kid..I am also a B.E. graduate, I am working...I am old enough to know what is right and what is wrong
Now friends I hope you can understand my problem, whenever I complain to my hubby abt all these things, he just screams at me and says taht I am trying to separate him from his family and I never argue with my in laws.I just listen to what they say...
here i want to add 1 more thing that my husband doesn't like me talking to my parents.so to avoid our argument on thsi topic, I try talking to my parents when my hubby is not around.

now frnds plz help me out from this situation. how can I change my husband's priority....how can I make him understand that he is a husband also, now he is not only a son.

plz reply me soon,

S M replied. As usual the problem of husbands not listening to their wives right?????

Hey when you say that ur in- laws are imposing on you are they very rude to you ?

Ask your husband next time when he doesn't like you talking to your parents what exactly does think he is doing???

Ask him if it is ok if he separates you from your parents ??????

Sorry Its just that I get pissed when husbands behave like that.

Alright try not to complain too much about your in-laws.But if he asks you not to ring up your parents ask him how important are his parents to him,or in anybody's life and tell him that the same holds true for you.

Try as much as possible to not hear what ur in-laws are saying to you,you know what I mean listen through one ear and throw it through the other.Sometimes they may not mean any harm sometimes they can be hurtful.

Are you working???
If not you must find a job first.it helps take off the pressure.Its very difficult for parents to let go of their children especially mothers never let go of their sons.Its a sad fact but true.

Try to get your husband to believe in you first,also assure him that you are not trying to separate him from his parents.
Also talk to his parents ,get a speaker phone so that in case ur in-laws speak anything bad to u he gets to hear it too.

Once you talk to your in-laws sweetly and if ever they complain about you then your husband will also start noticing that you are sweet to them and that yet they complain about you.

I know even if you are nice they will always find some fault in you.

Try to make his favourite foods ask his mom what are his fav dishes and try to make them.

But also be independent.Whenever you can go pamper yourself ,go to a parlour,buy new clothes to you,have a separate savings account,talk about financial investments with your parents and if your husband asks you why you never confide to him about your finance tell him he does that too.

With independence you get confidence.But also be very loving to him.If he gets angry you stay cool.

Ask your fil your mils fav dishes and whenever you visit them make her fav sweets or something like that and take it with you do this in front of your husband.

Once buy some gifts from your pay for your MIL,and FIL and then you have the upper hand.If your hubby never does that for your parents you can always question that.

Don't worry dear its just a matter of time.Your hubby knows his parents longer than he has known you.Its just a matter of winning his trust.

Buy a speaker phone it helps,believe me.

All the best.

Hope you find happiness in your marriage.

Above all never forget no matter what you do you can never change these people(in-laws) they will always find you wrong.Do NOT TRY TO PLEASE THEM.Sometimes when you can't ,tell them sweetly you can't do it.