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Hi friends,
Hope u all r doing gud.I am very upset nowadays..and dont kno whom to consult and wat to do..my problem is that though i believe that i am smart ..i feel an inferiority complex among frnds and my colleagues as they all have lots of jokes 2 tell and a lot of things to share ad i ahve least 2 tell them or even if i crack some jokes they may or may not laugh and put their hands on their head .I dont know why people dont find me interesting ..at my office also evryone will b a grup and enjoy a loot..i dont talk a lot and ya some matters am also not able 2 reply 2 them ...probably thatsy they never ever ask me anything they discuss 2gether but if i say anything they dont give any importance 2 it...as if i am some stupid or a fool...i dont know wat 2 do they all laugh at the top of voice and i dont like doing butterig also...but i know that i may not kno anything but am smart..but nowadays i feel helpless, and an inferiority complex ...i have started doubting myself...pls frnds pls spare some time 2 guide me ...i want 2 become very smart and interesting person ..can u guys guide me ..wat makes one smart and an intersting person...i always fear if i say anything wrong wat others will think etc,though at home i speak loudly ,when i am out i speak very slowly and at very low voice..even if i put a topic it becomes boring ..can u guide me pls pls...i dont trust anyone ..if i say this 2 someone they will take advantage of my weakness ..so am seeking ur help....so smart people like u ca u guide me pls pls pls. Sudha replied. hi needy !
Nice to read ur reply.
well dear ..abt boosting confidence u'll have to PRACTISE it. I mean try to find out why u panic ? do u think if u xpress ur vies all wil laugh at u?damn give a kick at it.who cares as far as u hv given ur honest views?i mean dont expect everytime that all shd agree with u.Just like sometimes v disagree with otheres views ,others also hv a right to judge..but u shdnt conclude that u were totally wrong.

My dear frm today onwards ,during meetings just express ur self ,share ur ideas & opinions.But be prepared for strange remarks or looks! It is very much likely...coz people will be surprises at this NEW YOU who always kept silent..and if ur points r appreciated by ur boss ,others will envy,yes take it as envy which is natural & not jealousy .
I think thus u will gradually boost ur confidence .Also try 2 make friends at work place disliking all is also bad for u.
Improve ur GK on the net itself.when u take time to read this why not go to any search engine like google dot com ..type any topic of ur interest & widen ur GK.

GOOD LUCK !hope ur reply will be something good to hear!
sudha replied. Hi!
well dear,i too used to feel the same when i ws a teenager! but nice to say tht i hv come out of it now.yes .u wnt to knw .. how? right?
well ill tell u but u hv to work for it my dear.U hv to first figure out whether u had said something silly or just that people r jealous of u !!! surprised ??yes ..it happens esp.,at work place.but dont let that fact affect u in ur behaviour ..i mean u said u r smart.
what is ur definition of smartness?
well if u r intelligent ,rarely commit mistakes at work ,work honestly for the co.& urself,respect all ,dont laugh at others mistakes....then yes u r smart.
Well if people laugh at u try to take it in a joking way...better ask them why,did i sound funny that made u all laugh?i am damn serious...
If u want to be a part of the group try to knw strong points & weak points of each ..yes no one is alike...try speaking to the one who respects u more compared to others.So when u r in a group that person will make u more comfortable.
Another way is just be urself ,at the same time learn from other people's talk ..try to figure out what makes others always listen to them.master this art but in ur own style.Dont copy otheres blindly.
I bet others will start showing interest in u.Whenever ur boss praises ur collegues go & compliment them honestly.
u said u hv lots of jokes to tell but no one's interested..well here u shd pay attention to details like 'wht kind of jokes suit whom'.chk abt the field of interest with each one..i mean some dont like dirty jokes..some like jokes regarding paticular subject ,etc,,also master the art of telling jokes ...everyone dont hv it , u knw.
If u feel u cant ..then its better to stop telling jokes than telling it in a boring way..
What u can do is improve ur GK ,knw whats going on around ur place & the world ...so when u r in a gruop share some knowledge instead of a joke.That is a real smartness & people will shw interesrt in u .
Remember first few times will sure be a failure but never give up.FOr me it took almost a year to come out of this complex.
GOOD LUCK ! Do reply..