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i really dono whr to start off..the prob is m eng fr the last 1 yr n b4 tht that guy used to like me alot..n he initiated everytng..finally i surrendered n v both got in to this relationship...now he is naturally very happy n so m i but wht happens at times is that when any resentment happens i desperatley want him to call or initiate n when this doesnt happen i cant tell u what happens to me i get mad with anger..my heart beat goes on top...my BP rises high n i find myself as if i m goin to die..as i cry n tremble alot in this situation....To come outa this i'v tried alot of thngs..i changed this by initiatin by myself irrespective of whoever is at fault ..now when i call him sayin sorry he says yeah..okay ..n just this n at that time i need alot frm him n he just gets so formal at this situation n again my that situation starts ...n even i feel a lill pain in the left side of my heart...i cant eat drink sleep i just cry n cry all the time ...when he sees this he gets normal...but then i get so infuriated tht i strt abusin him n allegin him for my this worst condition ..n when he listens me shoutin n grumblin he hangs up.....
he is 25 n i m 23...m doctor by profession...and i am failed to come outa this plzz help...or else i wd sometme commit suicide or smthg.....
plz help priya replied. Hey,
I think you are a hyper sensitive person when it comes to ur bf. As I am also a very sensitive person I am trying to explain it to you ...
1) When you are angry or upset I guess you internally imagine... HE will call you /talk to u this way and do this etc etc. So when it doesnt happen as per ur expectations you are irritated.

2) Then when you decide to initiate the call again you have some imagination ..that he will also apologise and say this ..say that and again when he doesnt say anything as per ur imagination you get even more wild.
Remember, he is entirely a diff person so he is reacting to emotions much differently. First of all , Stop expecting others(bf) to behave in the manner you think is correct ! Men normally dont get so emotional and dig into the matter ... They just say \"; ok ..fine\"; and close the topic.

Secondly, remeber, he is not in front of you to see ur condition of crying ..chest pain etc ...so he is unaware .. he thinks a \";ok fine \"; is enough and matter is forgotten.
But sensitive ppl have the tendecy of brooding over the matter ...thereby they tend to hurt themselves emotionally and mentally. So as a soln you shud first stop expecting anything from anyone. If he doesnt call fine .. you feel like calling ..call him ... if you dont feel ..dont call !!! and try and close the topic rather than discussing and imagining things.. This is a serious advice and follow it !!! Otherwise it starts to interfere in ur relationship!
Hope I have helped ...Not sure though !!!



jjeeeesh.. replied. Whoever you are, you sound psychic & hysterical..That poor boyfriend of yours ..HE should be writing in this board!!!..& You should be in a doctor's clinic.
There is something terribly wrong with you....Just go to a Doctor!.