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Hi all,
Pl be frank! And tell me whether any one is in similar boat.

Actually,By seeing me, anyone says that I'm beautiful. I am a sincere girl and I love my hubby alot.
But since our marriage ,my hubby never was much interested in me,He doesn't have history of failures in love,or so...But He always used to prefer spending time with parents than me.Of course I too learnt spending with them.

He had no interest in S-- from the begining.I didnt mind it. But it's been 3yrs I got married,He knows I'm perfectwife for him and he shows his love and he's been wonderful dad for our baby.Everything is fine.The only thing thats make me feel bad is...he doesnt have attraction towards me. He never cares how I look. He never praised my b'ty. But not that I'm boasting but every friend of mine says that I'm soo b'tiful and I was collegeb'ty in college days too! Y can't my hubby say a single word.He and His total family got spell bound in first look and he told his family he'll not marry anyone else (My SIL told it).
But now y he feel EGO to say that ,how he was impressed ,and how much he love me...etc...I love to hear that from his mouth.But he never ever utter it!
But,Everytime I find him looks good,I tell him that he is nice in this shirt or he is handsome in that dress....

It makes me feel sad ?! Am I xpecting too much ...plz tell me?!!!

Y it happens? I never say in front of him that I'm b'tiful.Because I know he laughsit out!

But sometimes I feel like getting his attraction and attention. He knows that I love to receive gifts surprising gifts.But in these 3 yrs.Only once he gifted me surprisingly.He buys many thing only in my presence.I ask him sometimes even if it's worth $1 ,I'll love it if it's unexpected one.He simply take it easy ...


But y don't he care for me?! I know he loves me but not expressive? But I believe he doen't loose anything in praising me at least once in a while to ice me...

Can't say he is practical even. Because he is so expressive towards his parents and sis...Thats y I'm confused!!

I'm not in dreams and fantacies.But I dont understand y he is so practical. sudha replied. I felt after reading this..that i am not alone...well i too crave for his praise...what will he loose in being expressive.my hsband never gives me surprise gifts but definitely buys the best he can in my presence...so now i hv accepted him as he is..atleast i know that he loves me a lot & wants to give me the best!but sometimes like you all, i too wish he will bring some roses or say \";hey you look beautiful in this dress\";.And yes after the baby came my craving for his attention is just doubled but to make the matters worse he is too much occupied with his job.
Well friends ...all depends on hw we too react at them.the more we demand the more the'll ignore us! !so stop demanding verbally.and also dont speak indirectly like \";my friends husband always brings her surprise gifts\";!
i feel ,in some way we have to convey that messge 'come on dont let boredom creep in '
instead of waiting in vain for them to take the inittiative let us lead them..like expressing vrbally how happy i felt when my friend gave me a surprise gift(dont overdo it...he may take it as an insult)..or never stop commenting positive things like \";hey you look very handsome in this dress\";(of course with a look \";hw do i look in this dress\";if he ignores even then ...well just try to put a hold on this craving .And say to urself its o.k. no one is perfect..i too may hv something in me which he doesnt like..but atleast he is not insulting me in front of all..or atleast he lets me do whatever i want...but yes keep trying to keep the boredom off..you never know, one fine day he may surprise you!
My dear friends thinking negative all the time will stop us from enjoying whatever nice or positive things we have.make the best of whay you have.tell yourself \";i know my husband loves me and he has given me the most beautiful gift i.e.,our baby!\"; pummy replied. hi u know when i read ur post i really thought that i m reading my own story.

and guess what? mine was a love marriage and its only been 2 yrs, we have a sweet baby too. but my hubby has lost all interest in me i feel.

i m sooo much depressed and feeling a looser just like u. hey i m sorry for u too i know how it feels when ur hubby cant even give those small joys of life.

u know i feel as if we are both now only pushing this relationship coz of the baby.

i dont know what 2 do. any suggestions Shailu replied. Yes,My hubby never praise for my being good to his family or gift me too..Pl give any suggessions...I'm too feeling left alone sometimes..Hubby is not caring...I just expect him to give an encouragement in what I'm doing as a wife and mother and not negative comments..But he comments me like anything if anything goes wrong....but never say good word 'bout me or my presence...