Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Sonia,
Thank you for your kind words. I was so mad yesterday as I didn't get my periods on the 14th day so eagerly went and got a pregancy test. It was negative and my periods started in the evening. I kind of feel okay today. it is like i have to continue doing this without expecting any results. It's all for some reason. I was mad with God yesterday but there is no point. he knows what is best for us. so we have to be patient.

How are you dear? Has your bleeding stopped. Do you still have any pain. Don't worry, April will be here soon and so will your hubby. The reason it is getting delayed is probably because god want's you to have time to heal after your surgery. I know exactly how you feel abt your sil. i hardly speak to my sil nowadays as she is also pregnant. earlier we used to talk so often. my husband kind of knows how i feel and doesn't give the phone to me. when it is someone in the family it is so different compared to friends. my neighbour had a baby last year and used to take her food very often, organized her baby shower etc..Anyway don't worry you'll soon have your baby. God will not leave us. we didn't do anything wrong.

Anu - Thank you for your encouraging words. Like you said baby is not everything but after a point what do you do in life. It becomes so monotonous and you lose all your friends as i don't like social gatherings nowadays. what is the purpose of life? i'm thankful to god for all the things and esp my family and husband. but because of me everyone is suffering. so you always end up thinking only about what you don't have.

Pari - i know how you feel. i felt the same way yesterday when my periods didn't come. But don't worry, you will have a baby soon. Try the OPK. Good luck for next time.

Love,
Veena Sunshine replied. hey all you wanna be mamma's,

Listen, when the big Boss up there decides it's time, it's time. I have been praying for so long myself...and I know it's hard.. so so hard. Take a look at the world around you filled with tragedy, death, chaos, pain abuse and what not. God just wants to make sure he gives his precious angels to the right people and by making us wait and pray so much, he's just ensuring that he precious angels are treated with love and just more love. So hang in there, and spread love to your family, to your near and dear ones and esp, those people around you who are expecting. There's no way God can ignore that.
And Veena, my dear, share your sister in laws joy. I think she would need your support. As hard as it is to want a child and not have one, a pregnancy is also a difficult phase and one which only another woman can understand. I think she would appreciate that you are strong enough to put aside your grief and share her joy. And the prayers that come from the hearts of those whom you spread your love to will be stronger than your own prayers. I suggest you call her and share her joy. After all, a very wise man once said, \";sorrow shared is pain divided and joy shared is happiness multiplied\";.
I know what you are feeling. I have been married for almost 4 years. And my friends who got married year back or 1 1/2 back already have babies or are on their way to have one. And i can see the pain or looks of expectation in the eyes of my family too. and the questions in the eyes of society, BUT i won't let it bring me down, coz I know that my God loves me too, and when he knows that the future is going to be secure for my baby he's gonna give him/ her to me.
Same is for us all on this board. So go out there, spread all your love and sorrow and you will be blessed soon.
With love always
Sunshine pari replied. hi, veena!!
im so sorry it didnt work out!! i dont know wot to say..
the way i see it is...i see all the women standing in a queue and god is giving a gift wrapped packet to each one of them..well, we assume he is giving it to each one but actually he gives that to some and shoves others aside who then start waiting in another group...sad and miserable...and occasionally he gives a packet to someone from the first queue and then realizes..'oh no..no...this is not the rite time for her to get it'...snatches it back and pushes her to the group of sad women (that is what exactly happened with me).
and then this group of happy women who got their gift...open it happily and tell us...'u know u should have one too...u should have one too' even when they know we didnt get it bcoz he didnt give it to us!! but they are totally lost in their own happiness unaware of our grief.
and then occasionally he calls a woman from the sad group and gives her the gift. so she forgets all her misery and forgives him too..but till then all of them keep waiting, consoling each other....so u never know when he is going to call u...and u know that when it comes to making mistakes, god is more human than humans themselves...else he has a very good reason to do it...he better have!!!
i just wana say..dont lose hope...please dont!! try again...who knows...this time he may pick u from our group...
love,
pari. amri replied. dear sonia, pari, veena

Hi amri here!! ijust to let u know that i am praying for all of u.
I really feel for u. May god bless u and shower u with everything best.
i wish that we all shud have babies this year.

U r such wonderful women, wonderful things will happen
Hugs and kisses sonia replied. Dearest veena,
I admire u soooo much for taking things positively....its really difficult attitude to keep.Infcat i draw the strenght frm u.I feel so much better reading ur msgs.
I can understand all ur anguish ...more importantly u managed to come out of it fast.
Veena ur right..God knows what is best for us. he will certainly give us. Only when is the question?
If its just a matter of time even im waiting for you all and also for myself.
Keep in touch. It is nice to talk to u.
im alright now veena.....just talking some medicines to alter my periods..in hope that i get April cycle if my husband comes by then.
Yes the doc suggested abt freezing samples for next time if it doesnt work this time
i have decided i will do it.
i spoke to my sister abt society thing. she said that i can come and stay at my moms place and tell people around that i m going on the ship.....if i have to exercise that option
so lets see how it works.
U take care dear.
lotas love
sonia