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Hi all,
I have been married for the last two years and have a 7 month old baby. I used to work before marriage but moved to another country after marriage.we had a very loving and happy life almost till 1 yr and then for my delivery, I had to go to my parents and stay back till 8 months because of my health and also that my parents would be of a help till I am able to do things by myself.Anyway, the issue here is that I feel my attitude towards my life has changed.dont know why?? I feel irritated often and feel that everything around me is going wrong.Firstly,my husband is a very rigid person,in the sense, he is nice but has an opinion for everything.For each and every small thing I have to convince him and I feel upset about it.He would say NO to everything first,but after I provide him reasons and sometimes cant help crying and then he does something for me to pacify. Also in our physical things, mostly I have to initiate. I understand that he is tired after whole days work,but it is also required to have a healthy s-- life to keep your spirits up,isnt it? I feel very bad about it.Sometimes I loose control over my mind and blurt out something I really dont mean to say,which hurts my husband as well.My husband feels that I am overly sensitive am too particular about everything and thats why I react this way. I care for him so much and do things that would make him happy,like I am a good cook and I keep home well and take care of my baby well too.I really want to be a good and understanding wife.I really feel stressed and am struggling to have a very good and happy life and I dont want to behave in this way of blurting out sometimes and mostly in extreme terms.I want to be a role model for my baby, so that when she grows up she would imbibe and follow my good nature and qualities to lead a successful life.Please...I need some genuine advice. I am sure a lot of women might be going through this stage as I am.Thanks.
Shefali priya replied. I think you are going thru a slight post pregnancy depression. This is quiet common after delivery !
Even I used to get extermely irritated at every lil things after delivery ... In my case my mom was living with me and helping me as I was working. Still I used to find all faults in whatever she does and wud complain. I used to feel pissed off and start shouting my husband even if he came home 10 mins late. It went on for few months but later it was ok . But we should also make an effort to change things. In ur case it cud be as you are raising ur kid alone, may be you miss on being independent ...and that triggers ur irritation.
What helped me was regular walks in the morning ... breathe some fresh air ...Go with ur hubby and kid as well.
Tell ur hubby how you feel and how sorry you feel later ... He needs to be very supportive. Make one or two friends to whom you can sit and complain ... that way ur need to talk or complain will become less ...so you will gradually stop doing it to ur hubby ...

Most imp, you shud learn to act you are very strong and very happy ...within weeks you will so much get used to ur acting , you will start to believe you are really strong and happy and that becomes a way of living life !!!

Otherwise unwanted negative thoughts start to screw ur mind.