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hi!!
this time my menses really got delayed. about 5 days. my menses rarely get delayed even by 3 days. so i almost believed i was preg. even had called up my husband to bring the preg test on the way home. though thinking bout that made me even more scared as a pregnancy made me more susceptible to a loss similar to the one i had last year (a miscarriage), i still thought of it as a hurdle i had cleared. for me not only conceiving but also carrying a preg to term is equally important. but then all of a sudden i got them!!
i really hate myself!! it is so painful!! i know all of u here on this board have felt the same. so i just mailed in...
its always better to say it than to keep it inside. im such a coward... i wish i could die but m scared to attempt that!! but i cant take it anymore....i really dont know wot to do..

pari. Sunshine replied. hey all of you,
we're all in the same boat, some for longer some for shorter. But, we've all been through our pains, and hurt.

Let me share something with you that i hope will bring you comfort. I read about this is a book called \";only love is real\";.. I don't know if any of you believe in past lives, or soul mates etc.. you may think that i'm just plainly mad. But i agree with the author. He says, that during his study on this subject (past lives & soul mates) he has learned something about miscarriages and death. When a woman is pregnant, the body of her child is reserved for a certain spirit to return to earth.. However, when a miscarriage occurs, it is becoz of certain reasons that may change the need of the spirit to return on earth at that specific time. Maybe circumstances have changed in the parents lives or something that u may not even realise at the time. But it is for the best of the future of the child.
I know this may sound crazy and hurtful. But i do believe that everything has its time and reason. Just hang in there, and soon when our time is here, we will be happier than ever.
Or look at it this way, perhaps there is something that you are learning from all this, consiously or unconsiously. But the one thing to remember is DON\";T GIVE UP.
coz at end when your hand is held in those chubby little fingers, all of this becomes worth it.

Take care and god bless,
hope i don't sound like a complete goof ball.

Love always,

Sunshine Parul replied. Dear Pari ..

We all understand ur pain n agony. we all r in a way in the same boat.. I too had a misscarrage in Dec '03 and have been ttc since March'04. i too loose hope when i see my menses every month, but therz hardly anything in our hands...
what Sonia said is very right .. Stop crying and act .. dunno think abt full term etc.. and whatever u feel, u can write down and share with all of us in this board.
We all r with u and we understand u and ur feelings.. so pls ... take care and smile :)

Love,
Parul sonia replied. Hi pari

Read your mail. I know how it feels that u have got your periods and that too after delay. because many a time i too went thru the same dilema

but its no time to sit and cry.....its time to get up and act.
try doing what i have suggested. give it a shot.
if u dont understand ask questions.
u should know ur ovulation for that.
u can use Clear Blue Ovulation Predictor KIt. that will help u pin down ur ovulation.
please ask others on the board how to use it . they will tell u.
dont feel ackward abt asking it pari!!! we all r here with same issue.
i have seen that others have seeked help and succeeded ....and there is no reason why u should not get help.
if u feel then can i ask on your behafl?

pari... now come on !!!this month u should not waste just sitiing and thinking.
i want to see ur mail today itself asking how to use the kit.or else i will do it.
get mentally prepared. be positive . trythis for atleast 3 months.
if u get lucky u may give good news in first month itself.
u need to have sex on right time and right way to conceive.
u have to try ur best.just dont give up.
let yr first concern be conceiving.....taking it to full term come next step. dont worry about it now.
our worry is so huge that its enough to have one at a time. ....isnt it?
if u die how do u suppose u will bring a new life into this world?
so no bad thoughts. it will happen eventually and when it does then let me ask u how u feel?


my operation went well.therewas bleeding and pain for few days. but now im ok.
but inm very anxious and lot depressed ..because if my hubby doesnt come teill march end .....my mission will be postponed till july.the doctor is not available in may and june.
this wait seems to stretch no end.
whenever i think abt it i cant help crying....i dont know what my deatiny has in storefor me.
im just waiting ....feel so helpless that my precious days r going down the drain and i cant do anything....except hearing news abt other people, seeing their pregnancies progress and watchin the kids growing.it hurts so much.
anyway bye pari
u take care
and get to work...NOW
if u want to use this month....get the info
love sonia whynot replied. Hey Hey Hey!! Dont lose ur hopes. But just to comfort u can i say something? Its better not to have ur wish fulfilled than to have it and getting it snatched.
I dont mean thats one shudnt get preg. Just feel bad for u.
Keep the faith.