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Hi,

My son is 2 yrs old and I have just put him in a playgroup. Its just 2-3 days now. I was with him for these days, but slowly I want to stay back and let him sit on his own in the school.All the time I cannot accompany him in the class room.

I tried doing that once, I settled him in his class and was standing in the room next door. But he was crying so much!!!!

Could you please tell me some ideas so that he settles there by himself? I understand he will take time, as he was with me all the time till date... But just want him to be independent now.

Also, he is very social at home, he will tell whatever he wants, and answer all the questions asked at home...but whenever I go out, or even in the school (which is started 2-3 days back) he will not answer anything.... he becomes a very shy kid that time...

Can you pleas tell me how to bring him out of all this...

Thanks gaurav replied. in my case i realised how much the kids this age understand ,so its best to talk . we tell our kid that we have some important work and cannot be with him in school today and we will be back soon .it WORKS, maybe you have to persist and slowly increase your gap with the child Sheeba replied. Hi Radhika,
It is good you had observed a lot of happenings in the nursery. As they have day-care, it will always be a mess in the nursery. I believe the same care-takers will only be handling the day-care pupils also.
Yes, they can plan something also for the kids. For our kid also, first few days the kids were doing something on their own. After that they had formed groups and have their own care-takers. Now they have rhymes sessions wherein all the pupils gather and listen & sing together. I think for playing, it is like the pupil's individual interest. Some may be interested in cycle, others in building blocks like that. I feel you can suggest some imporvements to the owner telling about the formation of groups and all. Kids will slowly only get interacted with each other.
You dont need to worry a lot. You can see a good improvement in your kids behaviour.

Thanks
Sheeba Sheeba Anwar replied. Hi Radhika,
All children requires more time to get in tune with the play school environment. You can be with him there for some more days in the playschool. Let him slowly adjust with other kids and teachers in the school. Kids are very innocent and going to play school is like coming out of their comfort zone. So let them realize that playschool also is a comfort place for them. Till then we have to be with them.
You can gradually increase the duration of parting with your kid.

2006-12-03

Name: gaurav
Subject:

just talk

in my case i realised how much the kids this age understand ,so its best to talk . we tell our kid that we have some important work and cannot be with him in school today and we will be back soon .it WORKS, maybe you have to persist and slowly increase your gap with the child

2006-11-27

Name: Sheeba
Subject:

Crying in the School

Hi Radhika,
It is good you had observed a lot of happenings in the nursery. As they have day-care, it will always be a mess in the nursery. I believe the same care-takers will only be handling the day-care pupils also.
Yes, they can plan something also for the kids. For our kid also, first few days the kids were doing something on their own. After that they had formed groups and have their own care-takers. Now they have rhymes sessions wherein all the pupils gather and listen & sing together. I think for playing, it is like the pupil's individual interest. Some may be interested in cycle, others in building blocks like that. I feel you can suggest some imporvements to the owner telling about the formation of groups and all. Kids will slowly only get interacted with each other.
You dont need to worry a lot. You can see a good improvement in your kids behaviour.

Thanks
Sheeba

2006-11-22

Name: Sheeba Anwar
Subject:

Crying in the School

Hi Radhika,
All children requires more time to get in tune with the play school environment. You can be with him there for some more days in the playschool. Let him slowly adjust with other kids and teachers in the school. Kids are very innocent and going to play school is like coming out of their comfort zone. So let them realize that playschool also is a comfort place for them. Till then we have to be with them.
You can gradually increase the duration of parting with your kid.

2006-11-25

Name: Radhika
Subject:

Crying in the School

Hi Sheeba,

Thanks a lot. But you know today I realized one thing. Since two days, I have been observing that as the school which I have put my son in, also has a day care center. There children come and go at various timings. The school has many children who keep on crying...but the care takers there, do not plan or keep any activities for the children in the day care to make them comfortable...

Few of them are sitting on the slide and yelling, some are just playing in the sand pit and all...they all are by themselves...the care takers do not form a group and make the children play with each other or play some games.

Is this right??? I mean, am a bit confused and concerned about this, as I think that if this continues, how would a child get accustomed and comfortable if he plays alone? How would he learn to interact with each other??

Should I suggest the owner to have some activities for these cry-babaies??? Will that affect the relationship between my child and his teacher???

SO MANY QUESTIONS I HAVE IN MY MIND!!!!!!!!!!!!!Please help me, as this is the first time, am facing all these questions...

Thanks.

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