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/Iam 25 years and married for last 2 yrs and have lost interst in sex,whenever my hubby initiates the thing,it pains me a lot,and secodnly after going to bed,i just want to sleep,and whenver he touches me or tried to foreplay,i get irritated,dont know what to do..ours is a love marriage and we share good relationship except sex.we watche movies together,enjoy our weekend,he loves me like anything but when it comes to sex..i hurt im by saying NO,I want to change myself.
Miami replied. Dear Shweta,
Never ever hurt your husband by showing that u r not liking what he is doing. I did it. I did not let him come inside me for 3 long years after marriage only because it would pain and we tried only 1 position the missionary one. Poor guy he never complained but slowly started putting it out on me in other ways by shouting on me for silly reasons and even hitting me. Shweta never do that. I was such a fool i took matter in my own hands after 3 years and started taking interest in sex and tried the woman on top position and had mind blowing orgasms. Then I also started liking what he was doing, though it did pain a little but this time onwards I was more comfortable. Also in the missionar position it is less painful lif u lift your legs in the air esp. the left one and keep moving it up and down. This way both of you will enjoy. Also if it is v. painful it might be because of vaginal dryness in which case u can try applying vaseline to his part as u slowly massage it. And keep smiling . Then your hubby will love u forever. All the best but dont make the terrible mistake I did. Take care. RajHbd replied. Hi Dost,
you need to change yourdelf, atleast u need to have healthy sex once in a weak.
Try to find out comfortable positions for sex. or u need to find new ways which will make u more involved.

If u will continiously say No to your hubby then may be he can get attracted to another women.

All the best