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my name is natty, i live in aboard with my hubby and i have a baby girl. i am from south india. i am not happy with my marriage at all. my husband's a business man. our marriage was a love marriage. but we knew each other before marriage only for 2 months. during that 2 months he was abroad. before marriage he seemed so nice and now he so rude to me. i am just 4 yrs married but i hate this marriage. i want to run away but i cannot becoz of my parents they will definately die and becoz of my daughter. he doesnt repect me at all. i am so depressed. i have no friends. i am stuck at home with my daughter. my hubby always puts me to the lowest. and to top it all i am fat. i am in my mid 20's and i am 95kgs. i am been fat from young. when my hubby proposed to me he said he loved me and wanted to marry me. now he says that he didnt love me and he will never love me. he just married me becoz his sister presurized him to get married. he devotes himself to his work and loves his daughter which i am happy he does. but i dont get a single loving word or a pleasing word. only when he wants sex he plans to be nice a week in hand and when he gets it he starts is nonsense again. i am so depressed becoz i am a woman who wants to love and needs love. i had no fatherly love. and i have a bad relationship before. i feel so deprieved of love. i feel like runing away. well wishr replied. Time will surely solve ur problem my dear....

Sometimes we wonder, \";What did I do to deserve this?\"; Here is a wonderful explanation!
A daughter is telling her Mother how everything is going wrong - she's failing algebra, her boyfriend broke up with her and her best friend is moving away.
Meanwhile her Mother is baking a cake and asks if her daughter would like a snack, the daughter says, \";Absolutely Mom, I love your cake.\";
Here, have some cooking oil,\"; her Mother offers. \";Yuck\"; says daughter.
\";How about a couple raw eggs?\"; \";Gross\"; Mom!\";
\";Would you like some flour then? Or maybe baking soda?\"; \";Mom, those are all yucky!\";
To which the mother replies: \";Yes, all those things seem bad all by themselves. But when they are put together in the right way, they make a wonderfully delicious cake!

Life works in the same way. Many times we wonder why we through such bad and difficult times. But when everything is put together, the result could be very different! We just have to be patient and try to piece everything together.

Have faith in God.
Ne replied. Hi Dear Nats,
I felt really sad while reading ur story bcoz its much more similar to mine. Dear I can perfectly understand ur pain especially when its a love marriage. Believe me, there are many girls like u and me. These Men consider themselves as great or somewhat like king. No matter how much we love them.
Only solution to this is BE STRONG. Try to be self independent. Try to get some job so that ur life can focus on something other than ur husband. Find out pleasures in other things which u had always dreamt off. Do somethings to make u happy. Enjoy ur precious time with ur sweet little angel.
Its easier saying then Done but PLS.
DON'T EXPECT LOVE(EMOTIONAL FEELINGS0 FROM HIM.I won't say talk to ur husband bcoz i know these marons are not going to change.
He has taken u for granted therefore using u when Required. He knows that u need him therefore taking every advantage of it. ACCEPT Ur destiny.
Change ur behaviour towards him, don't run after him.
This will surely compell him to think for a while.

May god gives u strengh and happiness,

Best Wishes...and lv to ur kid.
Ur Freind ,
Ne