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2006-02-02

Name: Sushma My husbnad is good basically. we had fight day b4 yesterday and I didn't talk to him for whole day this morning he told me something about his freind but didn't mention that he went to his house yesterday evening. But anyhow I came to know about it without his knowledge. When I asked him indireclty he said YES he went to his house. Normaly he tells me b4 he goes anywhere.. Why this time he does like that? Pls tell me freinds... am I wrong to think something bad about him? or is he right? Do not know why I am suspecious about him? Pls help me.....

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My husbnad is good basically. we had fight day b4 yesterday and I didn't talk to him for whole day this morning he told me something about his freind but didn't mention that he went to his house yesterday evening. But anyhow I came to know about it without his knowledge. When I asked him indireclty he said YES he went to his house. Normaly he tells me b4 he goes anywhere.. Why this time he does like that? Pls tell me freinds... am I wrong to think something bad about him? or is he right? Do not know why I am suspecious about him? Pls help me..... Arivindran replied. HiSushma,
From your statement you are having a wonderful married life. Don't get yourself upset with the articles in this mes board as some of it may not be true. You should openly talk to your hubby and clear your doubts.Two way communications in a family is very important. All the best to you & your hubby. VK replied. It could be just that because u didnt talk to him the whole day yesterday he couldnt tell u about it yesterday...I feel your husband didnt want to continue the fight with u on his return yesterday and so he went to his friends place (well.. atleast thats what my husband does)...maybe he was guilty about it so he didnt tell u but i m sure its not a big deal for u right?

and secondly, i m sure many in this MB would not like this suggestion of mine but still i would like to tell this to u...always keep an eye on ur husband...not to the point of suffocating or invading his privacy..but just to know where he is going, who his friends are etc etc. Dont ask him about all these, but just try to collect information from other sources like friends or indirectly from him...I dont mean to say that always be suspicious about him...but we all (both men and women) tend to get out of our track at some point in our life...so its best to be careful...i m sure even ur husband takes keeps an eye on u (though u may not realise)...

And finally, dont take small issues seriously...it will unnecessarily upset u and create a tension between u and ur husband...but also dont ignore ur intuition...

Good Luck and Take care

VK

2006-02-05

Name: Arivindran
Subject:

Advise

HiSushma,
From your statement you are having a wonderful married life. Don't get yourself upset with the articles in this mes board as some of it may not be true. You should openly talk to your hubby and clear your doubts.Two way communications in a family is very important. All the best to you & your hubby.

2006-02-03

Name: VK
Subject:

Hi Sushma

It could be just that because u didnt talk to him the whole day yesterday he couldnt tell u about it yesterday...I feel your husband didnt want to continue the fight with u on his return yesterday and so he went to his friends place (well.. atleast thats what my husband does)...maybe he was guilty about it so he didnt tell u but i m sure its not a big deal for u right?

and secondly, i m sure many in this MB would not like this suggestion of mine but still i would like to tell this to u...always keep an eye on ur husband...not to the point of suffocating or invading his privacy..but just to know where he is going, who his friends are etc etc. Dont ask him about all these, but just try to collect information from other sources like friends or indirectly from him...I dont mean to say that always be suspicious about him...but we all (both men and women) tend to get out of our track at some point in our life...so its best to be careful...i m sure even ur husband takes keeps an eye on u (though u may not realise)...

And finally, dont take small issues seriously...it will unnecessarily upset u and create a tension between u and ur husband...but also dont ignore ur intuition...

Good Luck and Take care

VK

2006-03-15

Name: Raghu
Subject:

Not a solution

Dear VK,

I am sorry, it is not a solution to the needy as it shakes sushma's confidence and makes her worry and will definetly lead to loose her peace. Your suggestion is two way without no exit to the problem but to aggravate the situation.

Dear Sushma,

This is a small issue in your family please dont blow it to out of proportion. Beleive your husband and love him. If you are young couple and newly married, it is quite often happens in your life until you have an understanding of the family life. But don't get carried away. I understand your problem is ego. Please shed it, both of you will be happy.

My best wishes for your happy life.

Raghu

2006-02-03

Name: VK
Subject:

Y dont u ask him?

It seems u and ur husband are sharing a good healthy realtionship...y dont u just directly ask him y he didnt tell u about this instead of pondering over it?....Tell him it makes u suspicious when he hides such small details from u....and again as i said...always keep a check on ur husband...and i see that u do...when u said that u checked his e-mail...he sure had a reason not to tell u about it...it may be sometime sweet too...or something not really important from ur viewpoint...

again, the best way is to ask him directly...u will realize how unnecessary it was for u to worry so much...i agree with rekha.. it happens very often...maybe have experienced this for the first time...but believe me it will happen often and u will get used to it and not bother at all :))

Dont Worry..Take Care

VK

2006-02-03

Name: rekha
Subject:

A quick question

Are you newly married or what.these are vvv small things that happen so often and u r trying to bother abt it so much..it happens quite often,donno how many will agree with me atleast

2006-02-03

Name: Sushma
Subject:

Thank you

Dear VK,

Thanks a lot for your reply.

I am upset just because he could have told me this morning directly that he went to his freinds place instead of telling something about his freind. I didn't realise it first later I checked his e-mail without his knowledge then only i came to know about it. Why husbands are doing like that. I know that it's not a big issue... but still feeling scared after reading many issues in this board.

Awaiting for your reply. Thanks again

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