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Dear friends

im just fine...not much of crying butcant help thinking. no matter what i try to do but !!!!the issue occupies the mind so much that rest all seems petty. now im waiting for my feb periods ..then i will visit the doc to get a date. lets see how things work out.
pari my husband told me in his last call that he will come dowm in april 2nd week. when he had said that he will come in march end i had well assumed that he wont come before april( it always gets delayed and specially so when u want to be early).now april 2nd week means end april or even may wont surprise me. that got me very upset.u know then i feel he doesnt care and then when he come he will be worried abt his nxt years nri status. now in really really losing my patience...how long i have to just wait and wait?it seems endless.
pari i understand what u must have felt when that friend speard the news . some people or rather most of them. they r insensitive. even i had experienced this early in my life where i told somebody and can u beleive my whole class knew about it.i felt so angry. but then i resolved no matter how close if u really want the thing to remain a secret dont tell to anybody.....and if u tell be prepared that it wont b a secret anymore. so im careful. pari it happens all the time. even now if i tell somebody in confidence i dont expect it to remain confidential.( with my 6 friend its either tell all or nobody...but with them also in bit careful).
so pari now u know dear be careful. now u conceive ...u will b on top of the world wanting to shout and tell all.BUT No. not till ur well settled...only close relations and no body..no friends remember that !!
and r u ok? what with the discharge has it reduced now?
dont worry time will heal everything and everybody. once we hold our babies we will suerly forget all that we r going thr

veena...how r u?
u r a wonderful person thank you so much for youe best words. dont worry u also will be basking in the glory of hapiness.i know its tough...but dont feel insecure about your husband.when we marry we wov to be with each other in good and bad times.isnt it????? ttoday he is supporting u...may b tomrrow u will support hin when he is low.i know how u feel when u think that u cant give him joys of fatherhood....its not that u cant give atall .its just that its getting delayed. but that day will come amd there will b nobody moe happy then your husband.and he will be also great ful to you. but still if u feel talk to him and see what he has to say that will help u a lot!!!
veena u r a brave and very positive person . i like that attitude . please keep it up. u will be successful soon ....and do let us know. its also good that ur keeping urself busy.

of friends bye and wishing ullbabydust.
sonia
Veena replied. Hi Sonia,

Don't worry..you surgery will go on fine. The delay is for some reason. Your husband will be back soon and hopefully at the right time of your cycle. Maybe he is also stressed out and is worried about how everything will work out and is trying to postpone his arrival. He might be giving the nri status thing as an excuse. So don't take that as a big issue. He would also be as expectant as you. Also he's away from you and all the rest of his family. Please pardon me if I'm saying something wrong but I just had some thoughts. You next IVF would definetely work out well and you would be pregnant but just as a contingency why don't you freeze his sperms when he comes here so that you don't have to plan everything around his trip. Everything will happen at the time God has destined for us. My granddad always used to say Man proposes but God disposes. So we just do what is in our hands and leave the rest to god. I'm mid-way thru my treatment cycle. This period is so much better than the 2 week waiting after the IUI.

Thank you for your kind words. Ya my husband is so understanding esp when i start crying with my mood swings. We talk abt my insecurity and he is always so supportive.

Let me know when you fix up an appointment with the doctor.

Love,
Veena