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hi,guys i have an 8yr n 6yr old kids. myson is in 3rd std .whenever iask him to study he would study but doesnt concentrate much,he would rather say why sister is not studying?why is she always playing ?why not me?
those r the questions from him,if i yell at him my husband would say that he would talk to him,just because iam unable to tackle the problem.it is one way saying that iam incapable of teaching him .my son would never obey me.can anybody suggest a solution for this.iam trying hard to make him understand things ,but looks like i failed./failing


vs replied. I think in your eagerness and responsibility to see your children do well in studies and behavior, you have in their opinion become a nag. months and years of nagging have made them sort of immune to your words and they are now rebeling against it. We mothers are sometimes so taken up with our responsibilities that we forget to enjoy our children. Remember your children are growing up and soon will leave home and all the memories left will be these arguements. Are the issues you argue about worth it. I think right now just concentrate on having a nice time with the children. If your husband can deal with the unpleasent issues, let him. Let your children think you are fun to be with, later after 3 months slowly ask for small requests, and then gradually go on to higher things. When you want them to do something, tell them in a matter of fact way, \";I want the homework done by this time\"; .If they want to want TV, tell them they have 30 minutes to watch TV and then they have to switch the TV off and start their homework. If they don't off the TV after 30 min, switch it off yourself. Give a time frame for their work, children do not like it if we demand immediate response. Hope my suggestions help but try variations if you think will work.