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Hi all..
i am 26 male, engineer. i am getting married within one month. just i want to ask u that just after the marriage, what should be done sothat our life( husband n wife) will be cool,friendly....like i have met her just 2 times till now , as this is going to be a arrange marriage....and till now she is not working.......just after marriage, we will come to bangalore, our home town is delhi..so only me and wife will be in bangalore....when we shud try for sex...
which types of common problems people face in arrange marriage as in my case....
pls suggest something, as i cannot talk to anyone regarding this Tony S replied. Raj,
Present a nice gift on the first night to your wife - like a piece of jewellery or something which she can relish and remember her entire life. Be open in communication. This applies to both of u. And do everything together at least in the initial years. Go slow on intimacy. Go for movies together (love stories), play a game like tennis etc. go for long walks. You will naturally become close and will enjoy each other's company whether in the bedroom or outside. Basically u and she should be able to open up to each other slowly with time. Also a 3rd person (it could be your parents, siblings or hers) should never ever come in between you both. If she complains about your parents u handle it on your own without marring your relationships with either of them and the same applies to her also. All the best. Life replied. Raj,

My small suggestion,

Be very friendly to her, be very communicative, ask her also to be very open to you. don't keep the emotions within yourself (as in feelings and love) let it flow .On the first day i think some girls are ready to have sex some may not but all the girls like to be touched and kissed , you can ask her if she wants to have sex on the first day .But my suggestion be lovers first and let you both be very close with other physical relation then you take the next step when you both are ready.

Always keep in mind, to be successful in the marriage these two things are very important

1 : You both should be very friendly to each other (just like intimate friends)
2: Understand what other persons needs in this marriage relationship and you try to achieve that and if both people live as per other persons needs then life will be perfect.It should always be win-win game.

Good luck.

Have a wonderful life ahead