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Hi. I am a 25, not married but have been living with my fiance for the past 2 years. My fiance is usually a nice guy but if he does something wrong that upsets me and if i get angry he beats me up real bad.While we are talking or arguing he just starts to hit me. When he does this , I feel like I am dreaming. Feel like its a different person and this person in front of me hates me. He hits me like he hates me and will hit me until I shut up.I feel like no matter what he does, i must not express any anger. Isn't it normal for humans to get angry once in a while? I always believed that verbal arguments should be settled verbally. I was in a really bad relationship before this as well and got beaten up often. I thought things will change with this one but feels like I was born to get beaten up by men.I am with my present partner for 5 years now.I really love him alot and i have recently lost my job and depend on him for financial support. I have thought of walking out many times but I have nowhere to go. Please help me. I feel so trapped and helpless. My mum likes him a lot and always supports him. My dad is no longer around so i definitely can't get support from my mum. Tony S replied. Just leave him. He does not deserve u. He has been beating u. What kind of a person is he ? He cannot be forgiven. Just tell him u r leaving and ask himn to forget u too. Dont marry him u might end up being caught in a terrible situation. Sorry to saY this but u r being an emotional fool. Rekha replied. U don't want to leave him...he doesn't think he is wrong and his beahviour is u'r fault...so what do u want from us???
I'm sorry he is not going to get better...cause for one: he doesn't think it's his problem. So I guess u will just have to live with all the abuse....and when u'r children are born...they will have to live with it too until one day where he seriously injuries u or worse puts u in mortal danger.

Seriously, want do u want from us here....convine u to leave him (which frankly if u were my friend I would tell u to do)...or give u support and false hope everytime he hits u!

As for u'r mom...she is u'r mom..she will support u in whatever u do..although u might feel otherwise. Trust me as a parent I would not stand for my child's other half beahving like that with her!!!!!

Think about what u want for u'rself and u'r children in the future. If he was willing to change and work on his problems and u really really loved him..i would say give him a chance....But not like this.

Get a job and get out of this situation... In a way he is right...it's u'r fault that u r staying in this bad relationship. I don't know u but I still know for a fact u don't deserve it!!!!!!

All the best. depressed replied. please do not ask me to leave him cos I can't. I love him too much and can't imagine life without him. I have tried talking to him abt it as well but he says it my fault for talking back when he's angry. Is there any way to make things better? Please help