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hi everyone
i am living in usa and a stay at home mother of infant . problem i sthat me and my husband , we both are living together since 2 years and now we both are feeling a need of break from each other . That's what i am also feeling my husband's attitude . My husband has started getting attracted towards other things like more frienships and etc. etc. etc.
problem is that i can not go back to india in coming 1 year and neither my husband . we have to live together . although we don't have any dispute but still its like now he has list his craze for me amd same with him . for him i have lost the craze or value kind of thing .
this condition is in its initial phase so i want to improve it as soon as possible . at home because of teh baby i can not give much company to my husband.
what should do to improve the situation on my behalf ?
any suggestion ?
anjali Ankita replied. Hi Anjali, I think everybody goes thru that phase especially us who are away from our family and close friends in US. When I was going thru that phase first I told my self to be positive. COz once you start thinking negative everything u think about is negative. I think best way to handle a man is to be more likeable to him. Think what he likes to do. If he likes to watch tv watch tv with him. I don't know about your routine. But mine and my husband life is very hactic. He works more than 10 hours a day and I work 10 hours and we have a 5 month old daughter and apart from this we don't see eachother most of the time in weekends too. I am home in weekend but he is working. Here's what I do

* I call him just to chat with him.
* I made a deal to say I love you to each other atleat 5 times a day. No matter when.
* I made him a deal to kiss me atleast 2 times a day. HEHEHE
* Plan to have sex. Make it special
* Go out on Dinner. and talk about yourself and not the baby and the family or anything else.

Gradually ask him see i m working on making this marriage better. In this coming 2 weeks you plan something for me. You can write to me if you want i have many suggestion. again, this are just suggestion and i m no miss perfect. We have problems in our marriage too. But it is constant work. B4 my husband will not have any contribution and I thought I m the only one is putting thoughts but guess what he did not even know how i felt until we talked about it. (and My husband is not a talker) it took me quite a while for him to open up.

Hope this helps
Ankita