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I am married for several years now.But I am really confused as to what to do with this unusual circumstance. My husband got a heriditary disease which limits his physical activity to an extent due to muscle wastage. When this proposal came,his family members never revealed these things to me or my family.I came to know about it only after getting married .My family is still not aware of the real situation (I live abroad)as it will be devestating for my mom who is a widow and had gone through a lot of hardship to bring us all up , if i tell her or my family they will be very sad ,so I need to accept this reality for my marriage's sake and my family's sake.My husband is an alright person apart from this but I don't think he feels very guily of all that happened to me.
On top of that my IN-LAWs takes me for granted for everything ,coz this is still a secret (but they now know I am aware of it)As my husband is the youngest one in his family the house and assests are supposed to be transferred to us (as per our custom)after their time (IN LAWS) and they had conveyed these messages several waysto us during the inital years after our marriage .But recently he changed his plans and want to give a whole lot of his money to his daughter who is settled alright and tells us we will be getting only a little .We don't demand anything form him as it is a shame to do so.(but his daughter once mentioned that she needs some of his assets )But my FIL very well aware about my husband's situation and he is doing all these now because we don't make a big drama out of it.We don't mind if he gives some of his money to the daughter but putting us in a very bad situation and giving most of his assets to his daughter who does not deserve is not that good.

We got a lot of debt (as mortages and stuff) and we made these committement on basis of what we were told before with the assets.
My MIL is also very cunning and sly and always pretends that they have not done anything wrong to me by not letting us know about his physical condition.Now we ar going to see them in a month's time ,I just want to know how should I be behaving to them when I am there(I don't want to pick up a fight but at the same time they should feel guitly of what they have done and ready do accept it and do the right things).
Do you think I got cheated? Any suggestions to tackle the situation so that my inlaws won't cheat us again atleast with regard to the assets.
advisor replied. well..u are atleast in a better position then us dear.My husband being very soft hearted was forced to sign the property papers by his brother and we did not know much about it as my hubby stayed away (overseas) for about 7 years..earning his living.Being a intercast marriage my in laws never accepted me and refused to give me any penny.But still my first baby was born in my laws house and i was taken good care by my inlaws.my kid and my hubby left the house with no penny in our hand.Everything in his brother name and his wife name.But as long as my husband respected me and loved me..money has never been important to me.We can earn that money with hard work.Ofcourse we had tough time with small kid being with us.My parents were there at every step to support us..but never troubled them with financial matter.
well dear u are staying with ur hubby and kid and working in US and earning good amount..still looking forward for the assest..as far as the problem of your hubby..u have already accepted it as u are still living with him.And as far as ur in laws are concerned of not feeling guilty about it..and being rude to u..then that is the part of the inlaws.Being a women u must understand there are thousand ladies around the globe are having or had a bad times with inlaws.
so i would say, please control ur self or ur anger once u are with them..Fighting or shouting will never resolve the solution.It would surely aggregat it.Look at the brighter side of the story..that u are well setteled with ur hubby and kids.what i could understand by ur mail is that ur hubby is with u only in decision..then what's the problem.problem is in ur mind.clear it up..u would love the world and the ones close to.
peace is what everyone is lookin for..
cheers..
goodluck..start lookin at the things that u already have..and thank god for it.before it is too late. Raj replied. dear i am sorry to ask u that u r more worried about your husbands physical problem or about asset of your inlaws.

if asset is concern then u sud demand for your part from your inlaws as it is legal right of your husband. and if u and your husband is having enough wealth then u can drop the plan of getting from your your inlaws. Advisor replied. Do you have kids from this man?
How old are you?